Navigating Friendships :: Melanie Shankle [Ep 273]

Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Education, Leisure, Kids & Family, Parenting

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🗓️ 10 February 2020

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Finding friends as an adult, keeping up with friends when you become a mom, transitioning friendships as your children grow up… No one tells you what to expect. But, friendships are worth investing in and they are a key part of what helps us not mom alone.

Author, speaker and mentor mom Melanie Shankle joins me to share how she’s navigated friendships as an adult. She opens up about what worked, what didn’t and a few things she wishes she’d done differently.

“I think it was some of it was my own insecurities of getting out there and making new friends. I don't find women to be any less intimidating in my forties than I found them to be when I was 16 years old. I think there's also a thing as women that we tend to get in a circle and be inward-focused and we aren't good about looking out to see who might need a friend or who may want to be included.”

Melanie talks candidly about her friendships, being an introvert and about how friendship doesn’t mean we have to agree on everything. Looking back, she wishes she’d been more open to meeting people and making friends instead of being more inwardly-focused.

“I think you would be better off going with the assumption that everybody would like to make a new friend. You know, just that everybody's open to friendship and to get to know a new person.”

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Links Mentioned:

On the Bright Side [BOOK]**
Nobody’s Cuter than You [BOOK]**
Ep 12: The Antelope in the Living Room with Melanie Shankle [PODCAST]
Ellen DeGeneres & George Bush [VIDEO]

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0:00.0	Hey y'all, welcome back to the Don't Mom Alarm Podcast.
0:10.8	I'm your host, Heather McFadian, and this is the place where I'm going to walk alongside
0:15.8	you and connect you with people and resources so you remember that you don't mom alone.
0:22.8	In this episode, number 273, I have the privilege of welcoming back to the show Melany Shankl.
0:30.5	I just, to me, I think you would be better off going with the assumption that everybody would
0:35.3	like to make a new friend, you know, just that everybody's open to friendship and that sometimes
0:40.8	if somebody is closed off, I think that says so much more about who they are than who you are
0:47.1	to them. And I think it's just continuing to approach them and to make the effort and to dial in
0:52.8	because I will say that one of the things that I've learned with this group of friends that I
0:57.6	have called Birthday Club, and we had started getting together when the kids were little and we
1:01.6	were a random group. I mean, it started for Gellie's birthday and she had this random group of
1:06.4	girls that she wanted to get together and most of us didn't know each other. All we had in common
1:10.7	was her, but then we continued to meet and we still get together like, you know, a couple of times
1:16.0	a year and you know, hang out and our kids are kind of all teenagers now and we lived all this life
1:20.9	together and what John Dommie was is that new friends eventually become old friends. But you have
1:26.8	to start somewhere, you know, it's like I think we all want those old, worn-in, comfortable
1:31.4	friendships, but it's like at some point you have to make that effort to make a new friend if you
1:36.4	ever want to have an old friend. Oh, it is so true. We want those comfortable, easy friendships and
1:44.4	being an adult doesn't make navigating friendships any easier. Well, today Melanie is going to
1:50.5	share vulnerable something she wish she'd done differently when it came to friendships and it
1:55.3	inspired me to maybe invest some time differently. I don't know what it'll bring up for you. I know
2:00.6	we couldn't possibly cover all of the information and scenarios related to friendship, but I have
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