Narcissistic Abuse in Christian Relationships [322]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 8 April 2025
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
Ever been told you’re too sensitive? That you just need to forgive more? Or that if you were a better Christian wife, everything would magically get better?
Yeah. Me too. And Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s book It’s Not You is here to throw a holy wrench into that narrative.
In this week’s episode of the Flying Free Podcast, I’m unpacking the powerful truths in this book and showing you exactly how it validates the lived reality of women in emotionally and spiritually abusive relationships.
We’re talking:
- What narcissistic abuse actually looks like (hint: it’s not always loud or obvious)
- The spectrum of narcissism and how it shows up in faith communities
- How to stop blaming yourself and start protecting your peace
- Practical strategies to regain your emotional footing (no seminary degree required)
This episode is part validation, part education, and 100% you’re-not-crazy encouragement. If you've ever felt spiritually duped or emotionally wrung out in a relationship that was supposed to be “biblical,” I promise—this one will hit home in the best way.
Hit play, breathe deep, and remember: You are not the problem. You never were.
Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
- Read Dr. Ramani’s book for yourself, It’s Not You.
- Check out some related, past Flying Free episodes: “What is Gaslighting in a Toxic Narcissistic Relationship” and “Using Art to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse.”
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying FreeNow.com, and you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast, |
| 0:08.2 | a support resource for women of faith looking for hope and healing from hidden emotional and spiritual abuse. |
| 0:18.7 | Welcome beautiful butterflies to episode 32 of the Flying Free Podcast. |
| 0:25.6 | Here's a podcast review that just came in. |
| 0:28.7 | When I was crying out to God over my painfully confusing marriage with a soul ache that screamed |
| 0:36.0 | to heaven, do you see me? I didn't know that finally God would |
| 0:41.8 | answer me. He answered me in a way unexpected. The Flying Free podcast has been a light |
| 0:48.3 | piercing the darkness of my life, a beacon and a storm that I thought would drown me. My journey isn't over, but now I have hope. |
| 0:57.9 | I know that God sees me, and he sees you too, dear friend. Thank you to Natalie for this amazing gift. |
| 1:05.6 | I want to thank you to the listener who wrote this review on Apple Podcasts. Your rating and written review makes a huge impact because it lets Apple Podcasts know that this podcast is relevant and resonating with a specific audience. |
| 1:23.7 | It will then show this podcast as an option for others who are like you going through the same things |
| 1:29.6 | and searching for the same answers. If you want to be a, kind of like a missionary to other women |
| 1:36.1 | of faith who are screaming to heaven for help, this is one easy way that you can do that. |
| 1:42.3 | Every little bit helps when we all do our part to spread the word. |
| 1:48.4 | Today we are diving into a game changer for anyone dealing with difficult relationships. |
| 1:54.7 | You know that feeling when someone makes you question your own reality? |
| 1:58.4 | When you're walking on eggshells, constantly doubting yourself, |
| 2:01.6 | or feeling like nothing you do is ever good enough? Well, Dr. Romani has a message for you, |
| 2:07.3 | and it's right there in the title of her new book, It's Not You. I actually had to laugh when I |
| 2:14.0 | saw that title because, as many of you know, my book for Christian women is called |
| 2:18.0 | Is It Me? And while my book focuses specifically on the challenges that we face as Christian women who are |
| 2:25.9 | married to covertly, emotionally abusive patriarchal men who deny women their adult rights, |
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