So you're sitting there making excuses for them, aren't you? You are, you are, you really are. You keep telling your friends and your family, oh, hey, they're just an avoided. They have an avoidant attachment style. They're just scared of how much they love me. This is why they treat me this way. They're just an avoided. Look, y'all, I'm someone that's clinically diagnosed with narcissistic person out of the disorder.

And I'm telling you right now, that's exactly what a narcissist wants you to think.

Because if you think that I'm scared, that I'm going to avoid it, you'll keep chasing after me.

You'll keep chasing after that narcissistic person in your life.

That's what we're breaking down today, though, y'all.

We'll break it down to

massive differences between narcissists and someone with an avoided attachment style. So you can

stop playing therapist or playing healer to someone who is actually a predator, someone who is

actually hurting you on purpose. Y'all welcome. Ooh. Intro fire fire intro look the little snap you got to do

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great great day lee hammock diagnosed narcissists um y'all we're gonna hop right into it man

then one of the main differences

between narcissists and um avoiding people is the intent right it's the intent it's safety

versus superiority like the avoided person like an avoided will pull away from you because they feel suffocated.

Like to an avoided person, to someone that has an actual avoiding attachment style, intimacy, like close intimacy, physical intimacy or emotional intimacy, not necessarily physical stuff sometimes.

Intimacy could feel like a threat to their safety to their internal safety

it's like threatening you getting close threatens me i'm scared i'm scared of the vulnerability like

this person isn't trying to hurt you see they're not intending to hurt you you might be hurt

but they're not intending to hurt you they are literally trying to breathe like they're they're not intending to hurt you you might be hurt but they're not intending to hurt you

they are literally trying to breathe like they're there the vulnerability is overwhelming them

the intimacy could be overwhelming them the relationship just in general could be overwhelming

them so they're trying to breathe they like they feel broken and oftentimes they feel a lot of shame after they disappear on you.

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