It's Tuesday, and this is the Ramsey Call of the Day, part of the Ramsey Network.

Kirk is going to start us off in Denver, Colorado, Kirk. How can we help?

Hey, Dr. John. Ken, thanks for taking my call.

You bet.

So I have a question, Dr. John, about dealing with feelings of resentment.

And basically, I've been married for 10 years.

We have two kids, and we have a wonderful marriage and relationship.

Five years ago, the business that I started moved from where we live, about an hour, 45 minutes, two hours

away. And so I've been commuting for those five years, about 800,000 miles a week and 20 hours

a week. And initially, you know, it was a gradual thing. We're going to, you know,

move the business up there. Then we're going to, you know, grow it. And if it grows and if it

happens to, well, everything went according to plan. And so now I'm in position where I've asked

her, can we think about moving the last couple of years, putting her head in the answer is the resounding no.

And so as we, as I drive every day, I'm building resentment.

And so I telling her that's the death of our relationship.

And, you know, it's a comparison thing where every time she adds something to her plate, whether that's, you know, coaching or something extracurricular, it asks me to come home earlier or it asks me to do something on the weekend that I don't necessarily want to do because of the commute, because of the issues.

So you said two things that contradict each other.

One is we've got this beautiful relationship, and two, I've got this resentment that is building every mile down the road I get from my house.

Every time she says, I need you to come home early, which is a two-hour commute for you.

There's something bigger going on here than just this commute.

What, what is it?

Well, I think it's that she values, I feel like she values other things, the reasons for her staying, which is her job, the kids, where we want them to grow up, her families here, over me and over my success and my grind that I'm doing.

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