Am I the jerk for initiating a divorce while my wife is in the hospital after a car accident?

My wife had two kids before we got married and they haven't actively involved father.

We have had two children of our own. My wife is a terrible driver, but she refuses to acknowledge this. She's been in multiple accidents and even had her license suspended. Not for a DUI or anything, just because she's a trashy driver. She'll do stuff

like reach into the back seat to deal with a kid rather than either pull over or let me or one of the

older kids deal with her.

She got t-boned in August last year

because she took her foot off the break at a red light

to pick up my son's soother that had fallen out.

She didn't put the car in park. Thankfully only she was injured. All four kids

were in the car. I have had it. I told her that she is welcome to endanger herself and her

kids but that if I am in the car or if our children are in the car,

she will keep her eyes on the road and her hands on the steering wheel.

She is finally at the point in her rehab where she can drive again. I reminded her of what I said. I told

her that I loved her. I said that her older kids were important to me and that I loved them too,

but I told her that if she ever decided to do stupid stuff while driving, our relationship would be over,

and I would make it part of our divorce that she not be allowed to drive with my kids in the car.

She started crying and said she didn't do it on purpose.

I asked her how exactly she took her hands off the wheel, took off her seat belt, took her foot off the

brake and turned around to pick up the soother by accident.

She said that I'm treating her like an idiot.

I don't think I am. My children have to be safe.

Before you ask, I try and do as much of the driving as I possibly can.

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