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Triumph 111 Omar. Welcome to the program. You're gonna start the Lord. Thank you for having me on. I just want to start on by saying that I've been a listen up for about three months.

And I feel like every time I listen to you, I feel like you are like my grandmother having conversation with me.

Excellent, excellent. So let me give you a little bit of the reason why I'm calling them have a marriage problem. Um two years ago, I wasn't in the best, you know, space in my life.

And I wasn't ready to be anyone's husband, but my wife asked me to marry her and I did.

And she was going to give me the time to, you know, get myself together. So it was rough the first year. You know, I went to a little bit of depression because of the pressure.

But that I work myself out of it. I ended up going to drug school, get them off CDLs now making a good living.

But the problem that I have with my wife is I cannot seem to get her to move forward to the future because she keep dragging in the in the past.

And I explained to her. Yes, I'm sorry. Wait, wait, wait, I don't, I don't understand that. What does she do or say that drags us into the past? What exactly do we do?

Every time I try to, you know, do anything with her, I'll be with her. Like I haven't seen her in almost a year because I'm a, like she lives in Connecticut and I live in Indiana.

And the plan from the beginning was for us to get together and move in one location. But like I said, the first year. It wasn't great. But at the end of that year, I ended up changing it around.

And now I could be a better husband to her. She keeps telling me, oh, we should await it.

Um, you don't, I don't trust nothing you say, you know, things like that in that nature. And we always bickering back and forth. And it always goes back to her.

Omar Omar.

I'm going to take a big leap here. That's going to be a tough one.

This probably was not a wise marriage except that it is very typical for a man to get motivated when a woman needs them to or appears to need them to.

Okay. So in the two years, you have become a better man. Yes, ma'am.

You have become the kind of man that would be a good husband. But think for a minute.

What's going on in the psychology of a woman who sets this up in the first place, who takes on a loser.

You're not a loser anymore, but just listen to me out who takes on a loser and then bitches at him when he's no longer a loser.

Sounds like a woman who needs a loser. And since you're no longer a loser, it's not a match anymore.

You're absolutely right. That's why everyone keeps telling me, but you know, I love all of you.

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