My Virtual Mentor: Identity Part 1 with Sara Hagerty
Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids
Scarlet Hiltibidal and Christian Parenting
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🗓️ 5 February 2026
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
Did you know that once a month we are doing a mentor episode? We will cover a different topic each month in hopes to provide helpful content for you and your local mentor.
1) listen to the episode
2) talk about it with a mentor or friend that is a season ahead of you
If you’re just getting started - don’t miss the previous episodes:
- My Virtual Mentor: Why Mentorship Matters
- My Virtual Mentor: Intimacy with God
- My Virtual Mentor: Personalities and Temperaments
- My Virtual Mentor: Stewardship & Generosity
- My Virtual Mentor: Time Management & Creating Margin
Today’s episode comes to you in two parts. The first episode is with author, speaker and amazing mom Sara Hagerty. She has such a genuine heart to keep her life rooted in Jesus. We talk all about how identity is a challenging topic for us as moms. We care so much about how we do as moms - and we can get really rattled if it doesn’t go well. Our identity can quickly become rattled if we have it tethered to the wrong source.
I also wanted to release a second episode today that I believe will practically help you think through “identity.” The week that I recorded Sara on this topic, my own heart was wrestling with what God says about our identity. I stumbled across this message by pastor Preston Morrison and it rocked my world. I got his permission to re-air it for you. Do not miss the truth and clarity that Preston provides around our “identity in Christ.”
My favorite part is the humility that Sara brings to the table. She is so honest with how hard motherhood can be and she invites us to bring God into every single disappointment and hard circumstance. She urges us to lean into the very things that drive us crazy.
Enjoy!
Courtney
(02:59) Navigating Motherhood and Identity
(05:57) The Struggles of Motherhood
(08:59) Finding God in the Chaos
(12:05) The Unseen Work of Motherhood
(15:00) Embracing the Struggles
(17:56) The Impact of God’s Attributes
(18:20) Understanding God Through Adoration
(21:43) The Journey of Self-Discovery and Identity
(24:52) The Importance of Limitations in Parenting
(28:29) Navigating Identity Beyond Achievements
(32:52) Finding Beauty in Boundaries
(36:39) Embracing Loss and Suffering in Motherhood
MY VIRTUAL MENTOR GUIDE (IDENTITY)
Scripture to memorize:
Galatians 2:20
I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Scriptures for prayer and study:
Books for further study:
- In His Image – Jen Wilkin
- Made for More: An Invitation to Live in God’s Image – Hannah Anderson
Discussion questions:
Have you struggled with your identity?
In what seasons have you questioned your identity?
Who does God say that we are?
Is there a time you attached what you “do” to your identity?
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Resources from today’s show:
Connect with Sara
Unseen by Sara Hagerty
Adore by Sara Hagerty
The Gift of Limitations by Sara Hagerty
Preston Morrison podcast, The Leader’s Cut
Part 2 episode with Preston Morrison
Resources from Titus 2 Mentoring
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| 0:43.3 | inbox every weekday. That's morning minute.org or click the link in the show notes. |
| 0:48.0 | Music Hey friends, welcome back to Pardon the Mess. I'm your host, Courtney Defeo, and I'm having an |
| 1:04.1 | amazing lunch, and I just wanted to tell you about it. So y'all at the holidays have cream |
| 1:09.2 | cheese and pepper jelly. I'm not saying this is like New Year, New Year, a healthy snack. |
| 1:13.1 | It just sounded so good. |
| 1:14.3 | I forgot to serve it. |
| 1:15.5 | Ella wanted it so bad. |
| 1:17.3 | I grew up with my mom putting, like, cream cheese and the pepper jelly and the crackers |
| 1:20.6 | in a little crystal ball. |
| 1:22.2 | And I basically thought it was caviar. |
| 1:23.7 | I'm like, we have the fanciest Christmas ever. |
| 1:25.6 | And I bought it for Ella for the holidays and then we |
| 1:27.8 | never ate it. And so I am now having that as my lunch. You're welcome for the food inspiration. |
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