My toxic boss ruins my mental health at work, so I ruined his life by getting him demoted.

I recently left a job where I had a really toxic relationship with my boss.

He was old school, and prioritized work over everything else, expecting everyone to do the same.

His expectations were so high it disrupted my work life balance significantly.

I had two young kids, and at this point in my life I'm not doing late night meetings or weekend

reports. The company worked from home 50% of the time, except my boss didn't believe in work

from home. So we were 100% in the office. Even when COVID was at its highest, the city was flooded

and the commute was dangerous. We were the only team of about 50 in the office. I told him I was

overwhelmed that I had too much work to meet all the deadlines, and he told me that I have to

prioritize everything, because everything is urgent. When I asked him what is the most urgent,

what should I do first, he told me everything. You get the idea of his approach.

The company worked in flexi time. As long as your hours equal 37.5 each week,

7.5 hours per day average, it's all good to work any time between 7am and 7pm.

I could do a 10 hour day than a 5 hour day, as long as it balanced out.

My boss, however, demanded those hours be worked between 9am and 5pm, and if on any day I was to work

15 minutes over that 7.25 hours, then he wanted to be told what I was using that time for,

and to have his approval first. I used to start work at 7am, hit the gym in the morning around 9.30am

for 45 minutes. When I joined his team, he didn't like this. He set up a meeting with me every

morning at 9.30am, which mostly he didn't show up to, but certainly put an end to my morning sessions.

I told him I found it detrimental to my mental health. He told me I needed to find another time.

The reason I went in at this time is that I had two young kids and my wife work shifts.

My boss, meanwhile, had a fantastic work life balance. Would often start at 9.30am to 10am,

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