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Hi this is Janet Lansbury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Today I'm going to be responding to a question from a parent who says that her two and a half year old has always had separation anxiety and can't get comfortable with grandparents,

even the child's father.

This little girl gets upset whenever her mother isn't there

to care for her and seems especially anxious

around family members that try to engage her or touch her.

This parent's wondering if there's anything she can do to help her child become more comfortable in these situations and takes up of the pressure off this

parent who feels like she's the only one her daughter will be contented with.

Okay. contented with.

Okay, so here's the question I received. Hi Janet, thank you for all the work you do.

I have a question about my daughter's separation anxiety from me, mom, that has seemed to be present since birth.

I've always tried to be respectful of her communication, so as an infant when she showed distress

at being held by other family members, I always took her back, or if I had to leave the room, I would let her play on the floor instead of forcing her to be held by somebody else.

My mom said that when she seemed upset,

I should say, it's okay, it's just grandma.

But I wanted to respect that she didn't want that physical contact

with someone, as we would with an older child who didn't want

to give a hug to a family member.

When she was six weeks and I had to go to my postpartum appointment, I left her with my

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