Keep going. Rebuild trust, forgive, heal up, and it could be incredible. Welcome to the Real Marriage podcast with Mark and Grace Driscoll. And we are answering questions about marriage and sexual closeness and things around that encompassing that today. And we have a question that we can answer.

Somebody sent in. Yeah. We'll try and answer it. You want to read it? We can relate to this a little bit.

The question is, my wife lied to me about being a virgin. And I discovered this more than 10 years into our

marriage. In fact, she was quite

promiscuous. How do you recover from that? I am struggling a lot and feel like I will never recover.

So husband, wounded, hurt, 10 plus years into the marriage and is like, had I known, I probably would have walked, maybe walked away.

It seems to be like that's what he's saying.

And so when we're in those sort of dating, engagement, preparation for marriage season, especially as Christians, we're encouraged to go through premarital counseling, be overt, you know, put it all on the table.

Don't bring any secrets into the marriage.

That's the ideal.

The ideal.

And that way both people know, okay, here's your story.

Here's my story.

And, you know, we're going to forgive and heal and move forward or not.

But being honest gives the person that you're marrying the opportunity to make a fully informed decision.

And when they withhold information, especially if it's, you know, negative, you can feel like you were taking advantage of or and you were lied to.

Lying includes not just saying something that is untrue but not saying all that is true.

So there are multiple ways to lie.

So I don't know.

What would what would you say to this husband?

I've got my thoughts, but I'll let you go first, babe.

We have a similar story because I withheld information from you from high school because we start dating in high

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