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Hi, Dr. Laura and thank you for taking my call and thank you for doing what you do and every day and so my question is I have a dilemma and I live in California and I have a 17 year old son who loves his grandmother very much.

I'm very much just graduating high school and going off to college this year and he very much wants to see his grandmother so I am driving to Phoenix and I booked a room to accommodate you know the visit with my mother.

So that she's 90 she's 89 years this year so my question is that my mom lives with my sister my younger sister full time and you know my mom does require some medical help of course at 89 years old.

I asked my sister if she would please drive our mother to from Chandler Arizona about 30 minutes to Phoenix Arizona you know to the hotel.

You know basically for three days she could drive her there and pick her up for three days and my sister is refusing so I may sound selfish and you can you know tell me if I'm being selfish but I'm driving eight hours to you know there eight hours.

Kelly Kelly Kelly Kelly you're doing you're doing that in a long weekend she's taking care of your mother every day.

I don't think yours is bigger than hers.

Okay all right that sounds great so so high on car service higher a car service.

Okay all right Dr Laura thank you may I ask you another question.

Okay so my mom as you know lives with my sister and my mom had another house and my I have two other sisters and my my other sister and I were on the deed of trust to the home.

Up until September 2020 about nine months into COVID and my mom's cognitive state has declined significantly so she has no recollection of what she did but she did remove us from the deed of my sister and she removed me as well.

And left me in her entire home to my younger sister and maybe that's part of where my major resentment lies is that my sister is not planning to share the proceeds from the sale of the house.

She's not obligated to share anything if she's been given if she's been given it in its totality. She's not obligated to share.

Right okay so I understand that but I I feel like that when somebody tells me they understand something and then come up with the word but I don't know how to put those two together and have them seemingly go in the same direction.

Okay I understand what you just said you believe that your mother changed that with undue influence and a mind that could not make a rational decision then you have to get ready to go to war legally.

Okay well I don't want to do that so well then let the house go.

My sister and I were very close and she has said that pretty much the same thing yet let her have the house and I will you and I can just go unhappily if she decides she wants all that all the month.

Okay let me make sure I'm following all the sisters the sister who got the house is the one who's taking care of mom.

Yes well then that's her reward the heck is wrong with the other with you your other sister understands that she's taking care of mom.

Mom's giving her the house sounds right to me.

Okay all right I you keep forgetting that part you live a life unfettered by taking care of an 89 year old woman unfettered.

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