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I'm 11. Bonnie, welcome to the program.

Dr. Laura. Hi, Bonnie. Thank you. Hi. Thank you for taking my call. I listen to every day in the car.

Thank you. So, thank you. Brief background. I know you like to get to the question. So I am 62.

I have or had two children. My son died 10 years ago when he was 27 of a drug overdose.

My daughter died just on October 4th of a heart attack. She was also an addict. My, their father, my husband died 29 years ago of a brain aneurysm.

My parents at that time when my first husband passed away came where very, very strong was helping in our lives.

And, you know, we're there to take the kids overnight and help them. You know, let, you know, let's, let's keep the kids and we're very, very helpful and let us take them on vacation and do all kinds of things with them.

My daughter became a, a cutter at a, at a very young age and all kinds of issues.

Both of my children having addiction issues, which I always thought, when am I doing wrong? You know, they're, you know, I'm working with them.

They're in, they're in, they're in classes. They're doing ballet. They're doing this. They're doing that. They're doing sports. They're, you know,

besides the fact that their father died at a young age, I'm doing all that I can, before them to be resilient and, you know, for us to get on this life. Okay.

And, and go get on with life.

And, both of my parents seem to be unable to make it to my son's funeral 10 years ago, thought that was rather strange.

Now, my daughter's passing just this October 4th. My father since then passed away. Now, my mother seems to have been unable to make it to my daughter's celebration of life just this past Saturday.

Okay. So since October 4th, I have come to find out through my daughter's journals, one journal, that someone suggested that I look at.

And, and a couple people who, that, that my, that my daughter was very close with, is that backed up this information.

I think that my daughter and my son were being sexually abused by both of my parents from the age of my daughter, particularly from the age of three until 12 years old.

Which explains my daughter's cutting, which explains both of my children's drug addiction, and it explains our basically our whole family dysfunction. So, my question, my mother is still alive.

I'm taking with a therapist for a few moments, the answer from a therapist is, well, your mother is going to deny it if you say something, you know, you, you say something to her.

It's very hard for me to live with this. Very hard for me moment to moment day to day.

So my question is, you know, do I bring this up to my mother, or do I just go day to day dealing with this, that not only did my, my, my son and daughter deal with addiction their whole lives and basically they are now both dead.

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