He completely bypassed it and went there.

I saw TikTok recently about how like when people are grieving, like the question of like,

obviously when you're not the person that's grieving but you want to support the person who is grieving,

you often think that the first question that you should ask is kind of like, how are you and what?

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Those are two stupid questions.

Very stupid.

How am I?

I just lost somebody in the hell. I'm sad. You know what I mean? And secondly, I don't want to be thinking about what you can do. Do what you need to do. Obviously, the person that I said it was a white person, so they weren't shouting the way I'm saying. Basically, he was just saying that like, just do. Just do you. Like don't put another task on someone's mind

to think about what they can do

to supply their needs just do it and that's what i was saying about in terms of like supporting someone

who's lost a loved one and like how you would feel don't get me wrong i love my parents now if any of

my parents are celebrating anything of course I want to be there.

But just knowing myself and the way that I'm emotionally set up, I'm the type of person.

No, no, she's not like, he's bolla. Is he they like? No, I'm joking. But knowing me and knowing the way that I'm emotionally set up, if somebody is down bad I can't think especially a

loved one of mine I'm trying to think my husband who I married sleep beside that night the father of my

kids if he is distraught there's no way I'm smiling teeth I might as well not be there I'll bring the mood

down like I'm the type of person where like if someone's going through something I just want to be

there for them even if I'm not speaking, I'm just sitting in silence.

I'd rather that.

And wait, can I just ask them? I'm not saying that the right way. No, please ask them. You go, go. Once you don't want to also say, yeah, I can't like to you. I'm a very, I'm a man as well. like this might sound mad

you're a man

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