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Mom and Ellie welcome to the program. Hi. Hi Ellie. How old are you? I am 15. Okay. What are you hoping I can help you with?

I have problems with my mom and I have for a long time. And I want to know how would you define the problem? What do you think the problem is?

A lot of times I feel like she doesn't listen to me. I try and tell her how I feel.

I like to do something bad. She has this huge overreaction that isn't warranted at all.

kicks going on and it's like a lot of times I can't, I lose the ability to like

text and call people and it feels like a lot of times like the thing I have to do

to like lose a privilege or get grounded or whatever is a tiny little pebble of a

bad thing and then order to get it back it's like the huge amount of good things

that I have to do and I can't because it's just really hard to be perfect child

for a whole mountain of a thing. That's how it goes. Okay give me an example of a pebble.

Like I don't know one time I was watching a YouTube video on the computer and she came in

and she was like oh your work is done like get your work done you have to get

there in first no computer for you for the rest of the weekend like like that.

Well did you know you were not supposed to be on the computer until you got your work done?

Yeah I wasn't thinking about that though so well here's the problem.

I think like do the bad thing. Hold on a second. Here's the problem. That's not a pebble.

It's the reaction, whether it's an overreaction and not we'll get to but the reaction

from a parent at that point is not that you were doing that it's that you knew at 15

that you had an obligation to do the work first and then the privilege of the computer

and you chose not to care which is showing disrespect and a screw you attitude.

That's what you got punished for and that's not a pebble.

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