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Welcome to the program. Good afternoon and thank you very very much for taking my call. I'm at a quandary kind of thing with my mother.

She is the same age as you still smarter to tack just like you. She works a full time job, but she calls me every day of the week sometimes multiple times during the day when I'm trying to work.

And by the way, I do work for law enforcement that she just bugs the crap out of me about wanting to quit work.

And she can't because of all the bills that she has and no matter how many times I tell her that she still cannot get it through her head that she can't do that.

And I have nobody else to take care of her because both of my siblings are out of the picture due to their own lifestyle with her.

And in other words, they made the choice that you're scared to make.

I don't want to block her because she's a widow. Honey, honey, if you don't want to make this stop, then it doesn't stop. That's it.

You can't say I want this to stop, but I'm not going to do anything to make it stop.

I mean, you can't do that. You can only tell her, I don't want calls every day with you complaining about work. I have work.

I could complain about work every day to you. I don't. This is not a good relationship that we're having. It's only based on you complaining.

I can't do this anymore. So when you call, we have to talk like a mother and daughter about things without you just complaining.

Or we can't talk. Now, if you can't be a grown-up, crystal and say this, then she will torture you for the rest of your life and your siblings are laughing.

Yeah, that's pretty much what she's doing now.

Well, because you're being a whimp.

Okay, not standing up for yourself at all.

And if I stand up for myself and call her and say, the world will come to an end and you will be the most hideous person ever to have been created.

Right? Right.

I'm not really silly. If I called you as a friend, you'd never say something that silly to me.

No, I've had several people that I've talked to. My closest girlfriends, I treat as sisters, had told me to stand up to her and say, enough already.

Well, ma'am, have a good day.

In fact, stop complaining to your friends about this because you're doing the same thing your mother does.

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