My Marriage Started After an Unbiblical Divorce: What Should We Do?

Ask the Pastor with J.D. Greear

J.D. Greear

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.9 • 624 Ratings

🗓️ 25 November 2024

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

This week on Ask the Pastor, Pastor J.D. answers a question that asked, "I’m currently married to a man who had an unbiblical divorce. To make it worse, we actually began dating before the divorce was finalized. We recently both got saved, and now are facing the question: are we living in continuous adultery? We’re both sick over how our marriage began, but at the same time, we don’t feel right divorcing. Do you have any guidance?”

A glimpse inside this episode:

This is a really complex question regarding marriage, divorce, and the implications of their past decisions in light of their newfound faith. Pastor J.D. dives into the biblical teachings on divorce, the nature of marriage as a covenant, and the importance of repentance and grace in moving forward. While the circumstances of their marriage may have been sinful, God's mercy allows for redemption and blessing in their current relationship.

* Jesus' teachings on divorce emphasize the sanctity of marriage.
* Divorce is allowed in cases of adultery, but not required.
* God's view of marriage is a covenant of oneness.
* Repentance is key to moving forward in faith.
* Deuteronomy 24 warns against returning to a previous marriage.
* God can redeem even the worst situations.
* Acknowledging past sins is important for healing.
* God's grace allows for new beginnings in relationships.
* The podcast serves as a resource for vulnerable questions.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hey everybody, welcome to Ask the Pastor. I am Matt Love. I am here with Pastor J.D. Greer.
0:14.7	And J.D., you know, every question we ask is one from a listener. And because of that, you know,
0:20.6	we get a lot of questions that are just very, very important to the people that are asking them. Some of them, I just, you just feel the weight of, I mean, this is a, it's a big topic. It's a, it's a complicated kind of thing that people are grappling with. And I think this is a good, a good example of that. So, JD, I'm going to read the question. It's a little bit longer than some, but I think
0:38.1	it's helpful context and then let you kind of dive in and start unpacking some things. But
0:42.6	the question starts kind of by saying, I'm currently married to a man who had an unbiblical
0:48.8	divorce. And to make it worse, we actually began dating before the divorce was finalized.
0:55.0	We recently both got saved and are now facing the question, are we living in continuous adultery?
1:01.6	We're both sick over how our marriage began, but at the same time, we don't feel right divorcing.
1:06.8	Do you have any guidance?
1:08.0	So, I mean, Jady, this is such a tough question.
1:10.8	The marriage started in an unbiblical divorce. They're saved now. How would you kind of encourage them to move forward in this?
1:19.8	Wow. Well, first of all, I just want to commend the questioner because I just, even the way the question is phrased.
1:26.2	Yeah. You can just tell that they're really trying to do the right thing. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, even the way the question's phrased, you can just tell that they're really
1:27.6	trying to do the right thing. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that's a, yeah, I'm actually really moved,
1:34.0	impressed by that. And I'll just say to you directly that while your current marriage didn't start
1:38.2	out the way that God prescribes you, and it sounds like you and your husband, you want to honor him
1:42.7	now. I actually did an entire
1:45.5	message on divorce and remarriage from Matthew 19 and a series a few years ago called From the
1:49.7	beginning. I'm going to give you a short answer more appropriate to this podcast format, but we'll
1:55.7	link to that message in the show notes, and then you can go back and access it if you want to take
2:00.6	a deeper dive. And in that message, I actually notes, and then you can go back and access it if you want to take a
2:00.8	deeper dive. And in that message, I actually have, you know, linked footnotes that will take you to
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