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Hey, so long story short, my question is kind of, am I the financial abuser in my marriage,

or is it actually my husband?

Whoa.

Okay.

Harsh words have been spoken.

Yeah.

Yes. Okay. Yes.

Okay.

Why are you the financial abuser, does he say?

Okay.

So basically, my husband earns about $140,000 a year.

He is also applying actively for positions and have a good chance of getting a a job that pays like 165 plus or 25% bonus every year.

So roughly, you know, 200,000 a year.

He's in, you know, software engineer basically.

I, on the other hand, I make 50,000 a year at my job, and I do get a little bit of child support for my ex, but it's not consistent. I'm also in graduate school. I still have two or three years left. He claims that I'm the financial abuser because he says that I have more money in my bank account. The reason that I have more money in my bank account is because I actually sold my vehicle because it was going to cost more to... Are you all married?

We are. We have separate bank accounts. It's a whole thing.

It is a whole thing. I think we found the problem.

Yes. So we basically had separate bank accounts from the time we moved in together. That was his decision. I wanted joint, you know, even before we got married, we were living together

when we were engaged.

But he insisted on having separate for the time being, and he claimed that, you know,

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