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Molly. Welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Lara. Thank you for your time. You're welcome. What can I do? I'm having. I'm trying to find what my best position is and

obligations to my in laws. As far as my husband's mother, I make communication and set up times for her to either come by or us stop by and see their grandbaby. And then as far as the step that goes, he just makes no effort to come see us.

He just calls, you know, once in a blue moon and just expects us to make the trip down, which is only like 25 minutes away. But he is not really open to me or very supportive. And so yeah, I just want to know.

I really don't understand the predicament yet. Your husband's mother is married to this guy that you're talking about. Yes. Yes. Well, I thought I thought the two women make the plans suddenly you're talking about him making the plans. I'm confused.

Right. Okay. So yes, like there was not much.

Seeing each other when my husband would speak to his mom or whatnot. So I started, you know, planning that with her and she comes and visits us or will go down there. He's working or.

Can you stop for a minute? I don't understand why you're confused about this. You work everything out with her. As you know, husbands are incidental in the social.

Planings of their wives. So don't worry about him. That's her problem. Don't make it yours. Any getting together, plan with her. Take him off the plate. I don't even know why you're thinking about him.

Leave it alone. Okay. So. So nothing. Okay. Just plan the two women plan stuff. He's not even a bio relative. Don't worry about him. Right. Why is even in your mind?

Um, that's just who my husband looks to at the father figure. Well, that's your husband. It doesn't have to be yours and why are you crying?

My parents don't act like this to me. My parents give me way more love and support than it ever has. So I just can't really relate.

Why are you crying? It's up setting for me that his parents don't show a substantial amount of love for him and care for his growing family.

How long are you going to cry like this? How many years?

I don't think it helps your husband at all that you're this emotional about it.

I think that puts more stress and strain on him to be aware of the difference your family is so loving and his is difficult and my wife cries over it. You know how much stress that puts on your husband?

Your husband has good in laws and a good wife.

I'm sorry. That's a lot. A lot of people don't have that. So can we look at the bounty he got in marrying you instead of the crying and sniveling stuff, which is going to stop us of this moment?

He has your parents who care about you and him and your little family and he has you.

If his growing up with that woman and the man she married was not that warm and wonderful, something everybody has to live with. There's nobody on this planet who isn't dealing with some loss from family.

Stop making it terminal. Stop it. Stop it. No, you aren't. Can't. We should not. Do everything. You can't repair the fact that he came from those people.

Stop it.

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