My husband never wakes up on time, so I let him sleep and leave on our family trip without him.

Me and my partner have five daughters, who are seven, six, four, three, and one who's five months.

For a long time, there's been an issue with him getting up to help with the kids in the morning.

He thinks he should be able to sleep on his days off work,

while I think he should get up when the kids and I do, or we should at least be alternating who

lies in for a bit. We've been seeing a therapist who's mentioned that he should be helping more

in the mornings. Recently, we had a family trip planned to the zoo with both of our parents,

our sisters, and their kids. Previously,

when we've gone out for the day, I've needed to shake my partner awake several times,

and he lies in bed while I get the kids ready. He'll finally get up five minutes before we leave,

as I shout at him that I'm getting in the car. I've mentioned to him that this is very

frustrating, as it's a lot of work getting the kids ready to go out,

and it's not fair to leave it up to me while he lies in bed. He'd apologize and promise that the next time he'll get up and help. The night before the trip, I'd told him I'd need to be awake at 6.30 a.m., so could we get everyone ready to leave by eight? He said he'd set an alarm and we went to bed.

My alarm went off at 6.30 a.m. and I got up. so could we get everyone ready to leave by eight? He said he'd set an alarm and we went to bed.

My alarm went off at 6.30 a.m. and I got up while my partner kept sleeping.

I decided I wasn't going to wake him this time and continued getting the kids ready.

At 8 a.m. he was still sleeping, so I loaded the kids into the car and we set off.

We arrived at the zoo at 9.30 a.m.

and his family asked where he was. I mentioned that he was still in bed and chose not to come.

At 10.15, I got a phone call from him asking where everyone was. I said we went to the zoo as

planned, and I waited for him to get up, but he never did. He got really mad and told me that I should have woken him up like I always do, and I caused him to miss the trip. He then called his mum and complained to her, who yelled at me in the middle of the zoo that I was being unfair, and I should have given him a shake to let him know he needed to get up, and that I was about to leave. My mother jumped in and said

it wasn't my responsibility to get him out of bed, and he needed to take responsibility for himself.

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