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My husband and I have been married for eight years. We have a seven-year-old autistic son,

and he has a 24-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. Now, he was estranged from his daughter

for a while, so now they're, they have a great relationship. But we

were talking, and he said that he wants to give her 20% of his 401k when he passed away,

but when I'm still alive, and I feel very frustrated with it. So I don't know them wrong or

what I should do.

Ooh. And did you tell him this how frustrated you are and why?

Yes. And how did he respond to that?

Well, his reasoning is because he was, so he used to be, he was in prison.

He was a drug addict at one point, but he's got sober now.

He's been sober for 13 years.

And he has rebuilt his relationship with his daughter.

And I think that he, the money is trying to make it for lost time and that he doesn't want her to feel like he left

her behind without thinking about her. And she is, and she is his daughter. She is, she is his daughter

and she's 24. The reason why I'm frustrated is because my son, our son is special need, and I feel

like he might not be able to take care of himself.

And, you know, we have a trust set up.

It's a special needs trust.

And I guess we have a will, but I thought that all our assets were going to go into his

will, I mean, to his trust and he's saying, well, that's fine, but 20% of my 401k is going to

her.

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