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My husband cheated during our son's treatment, so I took everything.

What?

My husband and I have three kids, eight, six, and two, the oldest of which has cancer.

The mistress has two kids, four and twenty.

My husband and I have had the occasional conflict here and there, and while I acknowledge

it can sometimes be a struggle, we generally got along

well and always apologized by the end. By the way, this comes from Thoreaway 0706-89. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the R-slash OK Storytime Subreddit. And I'm Angie. I'm Riley. We're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We just know what we would do in this situation, so let us know what you would do in the comments. So, OP says,

though the conflicts we had were only occasional, they did sometimes feel like a lose-lose situation because neither of us felt like our feelings were being heard due to defense mechanisms and other triggers. I had asked several times if we could see a therapist and work out some better conflict resolution skills,

and he always said he wanted to think about it, but never actually agreed.

I decided to attend individual therapy to work on my own resolution skills.

Despite this, we had what I perceived to be an otherwise pretty happy and loving relationship,

full of laughter and connectedness.

Unfortunately, this week, my husband unexpectedly told me he has fallen out of love with me and that

he wants a divorce on my birthday. He said it was because of how we handle conflict together,

and he's known for a couple of years that it was inevitable. I was completely blindsided by this because

I would often periodically check in to see if he was happy, and he had always said yes. He said

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