Now that I'm a bit older and having spoken to like a few people, and I think I was speaking to Beatrice about the other day, I had a conversation with my auntie a few weeks ago and she was explaining like how her, like she had, she was in a previous relationship and how that the family dynamic there made it very difficult for her in her relationship. She went on to marry someone else, but she was just giving that as an example to me

as something to be mindful of.

And I think it's actually so important.

100%.

Your partner, whether it's a husband

and a wife or a wife and a husband,

like your wife has to do the same,

the husband should do the same,

has to, once you are married as well, especially,

you are number one.

Everybody else is second after that. And so I feel like the fact that he's not putting you first is just terrible. And also it's just like, it's not even his mum, it's his mum's sister. Like there's even a little bit of a degree of removed, like, you know, like one degree removed. Like if it was the mum, then maybe you could be like, oh, like it's his mom.

But it's your auntie. And I guess because I think as well, not that I'm defending him, please, you know me, I don't do defending of men. I think maybe because it's the mom's twin sister. So sometimes when there's like a twin or, you know, they're super close. They're super close. And then it feels like, oh, that's my kind of like my second mom.

Like, well, you know. They're super close. They're super close. And then it feels like, oh, that's my kind of like my second mom.

Like, well, you know, they've even looked the same. They've even got to say, you know. I even went. I took her for my mommy one time. One time. Yeah. Yeah. So I think there's that element as well. And also, like you said, when you're dealing with a family dynamic,

it can really have an impact on a relationship when, like, maybe it's the male side of the

family or the woman's side of the family, when there's an issue in that family, it can cause

arguments within your own. Even recently, my friend told me that that has that situation.

It's happening live and direct.

It's a bit, it's calm down now, but stuff like that can actually impact a relationship.

And you find yourself arguing about problems that are not even being inflicted by you.

Why are we arguing about your family?

Yeah, exactly.

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