My Gut Knew He Was Dangerous! 13 Red Flags You're Dating a Narcissist (Or Worse, a Psychopath) | Terra Newell

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🗓️ 30 April 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Lisa Bilyeu welcomes Terra Newell, survivor of the infamous Dirty John case, to share her powerful journey of intuition, survival, and self-empowerment. Terra opens up about her harrowing experience with her mother’s boyfriend—a manipulative psychopath who infiltrated their lives, ultimately forcing Terra into a deadly confrontation. With refreshing honesty, she unpacks the red flags she noticed, the family dynamics and generational conditioning that left them vulnerable, and how she learned to trust her gut even when everyone around her doubted her concerns. Lisa and Terra dive deep into the psychological traps that confident, loving women fall into, from dismissing their instincts to excusing dangerous behavior. Terra shares tactical advice for spotting manipulative partners, the challenges of being heard when expressing concern, and why women are so often taught to appease and forgive rather than protect themselves. Whether you’re here for the true crime story or practical wisdom for self-defense and intuition, the first half of this episode delivers both with courage and clarity. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Caught in a Toxic Relationship 06:12 Dog Saves Owner In Knife Attack 09:47 Curious Chats With Mom 10:39 Dodging Questions and Telling Stories 14:35 Catfishing Chaos: A Twisted Game 19:10 Set Boundaries, Focus on You 22:29 Trust vs. Boundaries Juggle 25:18 Dreams and Gut Feelings Silenced 28:58 From Victim Mode to Empowerment 30:50 "Routine Builds Stability After Trauma" 35:28 "Trusting Your Gut Instincts" 37:16 "Picking the Right Person" 42:56 "Trust Your Gut: Kickass Story" 43:36 Follow and Subscribe to Lisa! FOLLOW TERRA NEWELL Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terraanewell/Twitter: https://twitter.com/terranewellWebsite: https://www.terranewell.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:52.3	All right, ladies, this episode is slightly different.
0:55.2	She's not an expert.
0:56.3	She's not an FBI profiler.
0:58.1	She hasn't done all the years and years of training about how to spot when someone's
1:02.8	toxic or manipulative or a narcissist or a psychopath.
1:06.3	She's just a regular woman who saw some red flags at her mom's boyfriend and tried to voice them.
1:12.4	She tried to trust her gut and speak out loud every time she saw something that didn't
1:16.4	actually make sense.
1:17.9	And eventually it was that gut instinct, the fact that she kept listening and seeing the red flags
1:23.1	and refused to ignore them, it is exactly that that saved her life. Now I don't mean metaphorically,
1:29.1	I actually mean it saved her life. Now in case you don't know the infamous freaking story
1:34.4	about Dirty John, then today is going to blow your mind. And even if you do know the story,
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