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The Collier Landry Show

My Father Died in Prison: Grief, Relief & Ending the Trauma Cycle

The Collier Landry Show

Collier Landry

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.4542 Ratings

🗓️ 3 May 2026

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

My father died in prison. In this episode of The Collier Landry Show, I talk about the complicated reality of what that means for me: the grief, the relief, the confusion, the old wounds, and the strange finality of losing the man who murdered my mother and shaped so much of my life through trauma. This isn’t a simple story, and it isn’t a simple loss. I share what happened when I got the call, how I navigated conversations with prison staff and family, what it brought up emotionally, and why this moment feels like both an ending and the beginning of something else. I also talk about guilt, unresolved grief, generational trauma, and the ritual I may create with my father’s ashes as a way to finally put part of this story to rest. If you’ve ever had to grieve someone who also caused deep harm, this conversation is for you. Welcome to The Collier Landry Show, where we explore healing, creativity, and the real work of building a meaningful life after trauma. Ways you can support this podcast: ➡️ Buy Me A Coffee ⁠⁠https://www.buymeacoffee.com/collierlandry⁠⁠ ➡️ Amazon Affiliate: ⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/collierlandry⁠⁠ ➡️ VENMO: ⁠⁠https://www.venmo.com/u/collier-landry⁠⁠ ➡️ Patreon: ⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/collierlandry⁠⁠ ➡️ Merch Store: https://www.collierlandry.com/store IG 📸: ⁠⁠https://instagram.com/@collierlandry⁠⁠ Episode Highlights: 00:00 Hospital wake-up call 00:26 My father died 00:55 Missed calls and the 4 a.m. shock 03:09 Parole, anger, and unresolved fear 05:25 The ventilator decision 07:18 Prison rules, letters, and reality 09:15 Family calls and travel stress 13:17 My sister and saying goodbye 15:43 The contradiction of who he was in prison 19:08 Cancer, decline, and the speed of death 22:00 Support messages and old wounds 24:57 Therapy, grief waves, and what this stirred up 27:28 No deathbed confession 29:38 Ashes, ritual, and closure 31:52 Ending the cycle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

What's going on? Your dad is up here at the hospital. Okay, as in John Boyle? Yes. He's at Ohio State Western Medical Center. He is not doing too good. So our warden wanted us to reach out to you and give you a call.

0:25.6

So my father died.

0:30.6

And this has brought up a complex web of emotions that I cannot even begin to describe. It's a lot, but let me take

0:41.7

you through it. So let's get into it. Welcome to the Call Your Landry Show, where we explore

0:47.5

healing, creativity, and the real work of building a meaningful life after trauma.

1:00.9

So last Friday at about 4 a.m.

1:04.6

I woke up, you know, I turned my phone off at night.

1:07.5

My phone is buzzing, buzzing, buzzing, buzzing continually.

1:10.3

And, you know, I'm having a dream and it's like 4 a.m. And I wake up and I look at the

1:13.3

phone and there's like probably 30 missed calls. And one was a couple from a cell phone, but the

1:18.8

majority of them were from Wexner Medical Center in Columbus, Ohio. I kind of scanned through my

1:24.7

text messages a little bit, no message. But I kind of knew, to be honest with you, deep down and sigh, what it was.

1:31.7

Obviously, it had been a very long time since I had seen my father since I made the film a murder in Mansfield.

1:37.8

But I did go back to see him before his parole last July, July 17th, to be accurate.

1:45.5

And I knew, as I talked about in that episode, sitting across from him, I could have been

1:52.4

anybody.

1:52.9

It was very strange, but I knew when I left the prison, I looked at him, when I left the

2:00.3

visiting room, but he was sitting there waiting to be taken back where they searched them and whatever, and they bring them back into the general population again, I looked back and I started crying because I realized that that was probably the last time I'd ever see my father.

2:16.6

And obviously that intuition was right. And this brings again a really complex

2:23.2

web of emotions because, you know, you have somebody who has affected your life so profoundly, right?

2:30.8

My father's destruction and the murder of my mother and me testifying against him and all of those things that come with that. And I don't want to get into all that. I kind of want to take this all in pieces and I want to take you guys through the day. But it's a complex web of emotions, like I said. And for those of you don't know my story, you can research, you can find it.

2:51.7

You can see here on this channel or on this podcast and get a little bit of the backstory.

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