My ex-husband refuses to pay child support and lies about being poor, so I'm making sure he stays broke.

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My ex left me for someone else when my kids were young, five-year-old boy and two-year-old boy.

He paid child support until he was medically released from the military in late 2011.

Since then, he hasn't paid a penny. Any time I've requested help, like $10 for school supplies,

he tells me he has no money. He's always begged me not to file through the state

and apologized for not paying. Of course he always promises that he'll start

paying at some point. He gets about 2K a month from the VA, but his work history has been spotty at best.

His parents have helped with his bills. He's actually had a good job for the last two years now, but still can't help. I've given him all required visitation plus extra.

I want my kids to be able to have a relationship with their dad. Recently, he had words with my husband, and my ex said that he doesn't owe anything, morally or legally.

He said I should file through the state so they can tell me to my face he doesn't owe. His words.

I talked to my kids now 19 and 16 and got their go-ahead

and filed. The state will be pursuing about 70K and back support plus current support

for the 16 year old.

I know it's a lot of money and between him and his current significant other, they have quite

a few kids living with them.

This will put a huge financial strain on them.

So am I the jerk?

You're not a jerk for asking for what you're owed.

He's the one who screwed off from the relationship

because things got a little tough and he wanted to go have more fun.

He needs to understand that he had responsibilities to those kids and you've been letting

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