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I'm going to give you a little bit of background concerning my situation and then you can ask me a question of this is necessary.

My daughter and I have a very good relationship and how old is your daughter? How old is your daughter? 25.

Are you married to her mom? Yes. Does mom have a good relationship with daughter? Very good.

And are there other children? If so, how many? How old? I have three boys and they're 36, 35 and 32.

Okay, so she's the so-called baby of the family? Yes. Okay, go ahead.

Okay, so as of two years ago, my daughter was a very small, cheap 5 foot 2 young lady and she has since the time she has put on about 60 pounds.

And I'm quite concerned about her health and I have talked with her about this a couple of different times.

And we've gone into various things, talked about health issues and everything else. And when it comes right down to it, she basically has told me that she is, she'd rather be fat and happy than to be healthy or have to worry about her health and dieting.

The problem is whenever I see her now, which really hurts me, I've become very depressed and for the next couple of days I can't sleep, I don't eat well.

And my health is suffering because of it because that's all I can think about. It's her health and how it's affecting her.

And so I'm more concerned now that myself, what I need to be able to be able to deal with the police and the other.

Her fat is not having you lose sleep. Her fat is not depressing you. Something else is. But instead of facing that, you're projecting it onto her being fat, which she doesn't care about. And you are self-destructing over it.

So there's something else.

What do you think that something else might be that you're really truly profoundly upset about?

Let's make believe she was the main thing that I can think of that goes along with it is the image that I feel like that the image that I'm concerned about how either my other might look at her or and things that the things that keeps coming back to me as what kind of image is that projecting my family or my family thinking about her other thinking about her with her weight.

So that you're a bad parent.

Could be that could be a thing to.

I don't need to could be I need to get to the core here. So it's how this looks. Basically how you look.

Right. I agree.

So in what other ways have you had to live up to an image? I'm the oldest child of my own my father family. And so I felt like I've always had to be said pretty high standard for myself.

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