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I'm 11. Ellen, welcome to the program. Hey, hi, Dr. Laura. I have really appreciate you very much. I don't see a therapist. So when I have a dilemma, I'm really lucky to have you on my.

Thank you. The able to call. So my question is actually really it at least I think it's a pretty pretty easy one for you to handle. Not quite for me, but I was wondering if you could maybe just give me an answer on this one. So I have a daughter on law, who is always correcting my son and she.

What do you, can you give me an example of a correction?

Okay, well, well, I have a little bit of a story what happened just just last night at dinner. I was taking a phone call in front of everybody. My husband and my son and my daughter in law. I was making a phone call to my nephew.

And because we're going on a family reunion and so Brandon, my son Brandon, said, let me talk to him. And so she started saying to to Clint, his name. He started saying to Clint, okay, we're going to be there on this and we're in the saying in the right right next to him. It's not going to be the day.

We're going to be there the next day. And then she said, okay, hang on. Okay. And the reason that we can go now, we can afford it because we're getting money back on our taxes. And she says, we're not getting that much money back on our taxes. Why are you telling me? And I'm like, oh, I mean, Dr. Laura, if I can tell you that she does it all the time. It's he'll say the right.

Is that because your son needs a lot of correcting because he either exaggerates or makes up stuff or doesn't get it straight. I mean, if she's correcting, it could be she's just an annoying bitch, but she didn't sound like it. It sounded like she was correcting errors.

She does correct errors. And yes, absolutely. She'll do that with Brandon. She will definitely correct errors. But then stop talking for a moment. Stop talking for a moment. I guess when you brought up your son, you had him in your mind as little Mr. Perfect and he's not.

So I don't know how much correcting you and your husband should have done. But it resulted in him sort of making up stuff and getting stuff wrong. So she was helping him get the story across correctly.

He was exaggerating with money. He was getting the day wrong. Is he on drugs?

No, he's not on drugs, but he doesn't have ADHD. Ma'am, I think you're wrong. So why don't you learn something right now? I'm trying to understand in the example you gave why he had the days wrong and was exaggerating money and showing off about it.

That was inappropriate for him to do. So your son was the embarrassment, not her.

Can I say one thing really quick? No, first you respond to what I've said before you try to defend him like you've done his all life.

I agree with you. I totally agree with that. Then stop right there because you came on with how she was bad. And as it turns out, there's something wrong with your kid. So let's find out what it is.

Does he have some kind of learning disorder? Rain damage, drugs? How would you explain this? You've known him as all life.

He does have ADHD. Absolutely. He has his whole life. At least when he was a child, he's not 33 years old. So I'm not really too sure at this point, but...

Well, something is... No, I won't hear it. No. Your son has... No! No! Your son has problems. Face it.

What I would like to see is you take him aside some time and say, there you are on the phone, exaggerating and bloating up about money and getting the days wrong. Sweetheart. What's going on?

That's what I would like to see you do. Help him. Help him. She's stuck with trying to keep him in a straight line.

All right. But what do I do at this point? Her young age, this is the best she can do. Help him. That helps her.

So how exactly do I do that? Because I will do it. If you just tell me... You talk to him along and go through what happened and say, something is wrong, sweetheart. And you know, I've seen it before.

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