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dot com i've got a unique situation my grandmother passed away a few years ago um my my mom my dad's

mother he's got a second cousin that kind of contested her will um it took about two years. He spent about $60,000 of

his own money. We don't know how much is in her accounts. And in the end, he's now asking,

she circumvented him because they don't have a great relationship. So in the end,

the money's going to end up going to me. And I have a great relationship with my mom. They're still married. But, you know, he's telling her to tell me that once I get my money, that I owe him the $60,000. So I bring this up because when it came time for me to go get my master's degree, I was looking to go out to the East Coast, he convinced me to stay on the West Coast. He said, I'll pay for your student loans. He didn't. I paid off the $150K. So, like, with all this kind of going on and him kind of trying to use my mom to guilt me into paying him back, like, am I obligated to paying him the $60,000? Or should I wipe it out, considering never came through with paying for my college?

How old are you?

I'm 40.

40.

How much money are we talking here?

I don't know.

That's the thing.

It could be $1,000.

It could be $300,000.

I'm assuming since one of the second cousins tried to contest the will,

it's a decent amount of money, probably $300 to probably three to five hundred grand okay when's the last time and I'm kind of poking at you but just know like

if we were sitting down at a table I'd be smiling when I'm saying this okay yeah um when's the

last time you called your dad and had a grown man in conversation but because here's a deal

this is how kids work hey tell Susie that I've got a crush on Sutton. But don't tell her that, like, and then Sutton tells Susie, well, John, I don't, like, you see what I'm saying? Y'all are playing telephone through your poor mom. Y'all are grown men. Yeah. No, I know. We haven't spoken in three years. He got into a fight with my wife, and obviously I chose my wife's side. Yeah. If he wants to be a grown man and call his son and say, hey, I fought this. It's this much money. Here's what I spent on it. It feels right to me that you would come back. And then you said, well, let's have a deeper conversation you told me you'd

pay for this and then you walked away and i got stuck with a hundred fifty have a grown-up conversation

okay but i'm not going to play telephone with my dad i would tell my mom mom i don't want to hear any more of the

pass through if dad wants to talk to me about money he can call me like a grown-up. And for you, brother, you did the thing.

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