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I'm 11. Mary, welcome to the program. Hey, Dr. Laura. It's good to hear your voice. Thank you.

I'm just calling. I've learned a lot by listening to your show and I wanted to find out how to do the right thing.

Okay. I have a brother that's 12 years older than I am. I'm 61. He's 73. This is not his most fortunate lifetime.

He has lost his wife and both of his kids to Huntington's disease. And about three. Yeah.

And about three years ago, he was diagnosed with bladder cancer. So understandably, he is anxious, stressed.

And I just spent two weeks with him on vacation in Mexico and Arizona. And if he had tenancies to micro manage before, they have a really short fuse to be bossy that has exponentially increased.

And my question is, how do I spend quality time with my brother to support him and not compromise my own well being?

And I live with him. I do not know.

Oh, how often do you have to spend time with him?

You know, he's a snow bird that goes to Arizona for the winter. He's holding on in a month in a week. How often do you spend time with him?

In the winter, two weeks in the summer, probably twice a week.

And why twice a week in the summer?

Because he comes back to Minnesota where I live.

Are you married?

No.

Oh.

So would you rather spend less time with him during the summer?

You know, during the summer, it's short. It's like maybe a couple of hours at a time. And so I can really deal with that.

But just having come back.

You're not, you're just calling to vent then.

Well, it's okay.

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