Am I overreacting for thinking my boyfriend's messages came from a place of control rather than

concern? I am an 18 year old woman and I don't post this kind of personal stuff usually so I've

decided to post it anonymously here. If you have feedback, please tell me. So I sent him a photo

of me on my bike fully geared up. I thought it was casual. But he got upset and said it made him

uncomfortable, claiming that girls on motorcycles get sexualized a lot, especially on social media.

He doesn't like the idea of people looking at me that way and said I should be more considerate

of how it makes him feel. I ride because I love it. It makes me feel free, confident and strong.

I wasn't trying to be sexy or attract attention, but I do see where he's coming from a little.

The whole viker girl image has become more sexualized online, and maybe that shaped how he sees it.

Still, it felt like he was projecting that onto me, and now I'm wondering, am I overreacting

for feeling like this is more about control than genuine concern?

Okay, so here we go.

You've sent an image to him of yourself after asking, you know, what are you up to?

Just hanging out, you went for a ride.

Now, obviously, this has been scribbled over, but from what I can tell, you look pretty normal, if not 100% normal, right?

You know, you've got a helmet on, you're fully covered up.

Looks like you're wearing reasonable biking gear.

That's it.

He then says, you really thought sending that was a good idea?

Well, you asked what I was doing.

You're literally putting yourself out there like some biker chick for everyone to stare at.

Wow, that's not what this is. I just enjoy riding. That's all. No, don't play dumb. You know what

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