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My question is, my boyfriend doesn't want to work and is that a deal breaker. I'm a 40-year-old surgeon in my first job.

Last year, I made about $280,000.

This year I'm expected to make close to $500,000 in the second year of my work.

My boyfriend of one year is an actor, and the entire time I've known him for about a year,

he's had two days of work as an actor, and he less than 23,000 last year. So he didn't qualify

for the actors union health insurance. But we want to continue our relationship and keep moving forward and eventually get married and live together.

But he says that because the house will be under my name as the main wage earner,

he doesn't feel like he should pay for any part of the mortgage.

He also can't.

And I'm wondering if that's a deal breaker or if I should just suck it up and pay for the expenses because I can.

Hmm.

What do you think, Jenny?

Is that, is that attractive to you?

Like, are you like, what a winner?

This is not how i had imagined um being in your relationship you're smart you're a surgeon jenny you're really smart you know so i'm just it's just kind of

it is interesting because usually not always but to a degree people intellect, you're attracted to other people's intellect and you're a hard worker.

Obviously, the schooling you had to go through was insane and the amount of hours you have to put in and work and to have somebody that doesn't give. And again, I'm not mad that he doesn't have a job as an actor every week, but at least he's like, hey, I'm still busting my butt and I'm part-time here. I'm waiting

tables here. I'm trying to make this dream work. I'm not mad at the dream, but the fact that

there's nothing in between that that's happening, right, is, like, that's as a woman who works and all of it, like that's not attractive to me as a, for a man,

a guy that has a level of initiative.

I find attractive.

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