My boyfriend called me a gold digger, so I left. Now he wants my help to pay the rent.

This was originally posted back in December of 2024 to ar slash true off my chest.

Quick rant, not looking for advice but for people who have been in similar situations.

I, a 30 year old woman, have been with my boyfriend who is 34 for two years.

We moved in together six months ago, and it was all good.

We had an understanding that we'd go 50-50 on chores and bills until we decided to have a child.

As I'd be putting my body, career and life on the line, he would obviously need to make up

for his lack of risk by contributing more around the house and monetarily. Because of this, I believed we had an understanding on how we believed partnership

should work. Two months ago, he got a slight promotion and pay bump, which meant we adjusted

our cut of the bills to reflect that. But somehow, he's come to expect me to then take up the chores

at home.

It started with small things that I knew he could do, like dishes and laundry, and escalated to sitting down all weekend watching me do my half and leaving his half of the chores to accumulate.

He blamed it on the stress and added workload, but we're both corporate and work at our desks regardless.

I'd be more understanding if his job was more physically demanding. It got to a breaking point

when I noticed mould in the pots he was meant to clean. If either of us cooks, it's the other's

responsibility to clean. He just kept the lid on it so that I wouldn't notice. I needed to take a day

off work to catch up with all the cleaning he neglected.

The last straw was when he came home without groceries, despite it being his week.

Usually when either of us is too tired to do groceries, we let the other know in advance so we can at least order in food.

I told him we need to add a cleaner to the bills if he's not happy doing

chores anymore because I refuse to do them if he isn't contributing fairly too. He made an

excuse about not wanting a stranger in our flat. I then said we'd need to begin ordering groceries

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