I realized after a while that God gives everybody gifts and part of my gift is to share the recovery message with people.

I may not be the best singer in the world, I may not have a huge voice, but I have a message to my music that I feel is important.

Welcome to episode 360 of The Recovery Show. This episode is brought to you by Melanie, Christopher, Carla, Rachel, Diane, and Brian.

They used the donation button on our website. Thank you, Melanie, Christopher, Carla, Rachel, Diane, and Brian for your generous contributions. This episode is for you.

I want to thank Sonya Lee and Paige Logan for their gracious permission to include their songs in this episode.

We are friends and family members of Alcoholics and Addicts who have found a path to serenity and happiness.

We who live or have lived with the seemingly hopeless problem of addiction, understand this perhaps a few others can.

So much depends on our own attitudes and we believe that changed attitudes can aid recovery.

Before we begin, we would like to state that in this show, we represent ourselves rather than any 12 step program.

During this show, we will share our own experiences. The opinions expressed here are strictly those of the person who gave them.

Take what you like and leave the rest. We hope that you will find something in our sharing that speaks to your life.

My name is Spencer. I am your host today and joining me today is Sonya. Welcome, Sonya to the recovery show.

Hi. Thank you.

I asked my guests to bring a reading that's meaningful to them. So tell us what you picked.

Okay. It's so hard to pick literature because there's so much great Alonon literature that I end up picking like eight of them.

What I landed on today was July 7th, page 189 of the courage to change.

And it goes like this, I thought that in every conflict and every confrontation, someone was invariably at fault.

It was essential to blame and I would stew for hours weighing the evidence.

I became a chronic scorekeeper because I approached every situation with this attitude.

I was consumed by guilt and anger. Defensive and anxious, I made sure my own back was always covered.

Alonon helps me understand that disputes come up even when everyone is doing their best.

Obsessively, reviewing everyone's behavior focuses my attention where it doesn't belong and keeps me too busy to have any serenity.

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