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The Virtual Couch

Much Ado About Anxiety, and Why Ignoring Anxiety Only Makes It Angry!

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9668 Ratings

🗓️ 28 April 2020

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Most likely you don't even have to start thinking about all of the stressors in your life right now to feel that familiar pang of anxiety. Does your heart feel like it’s going to beat right through your chest? Or do you feel like a dozen or more kittens are kneading their tiny claws against the inner lining of your stomach? Do you get migraines that cause you to want to bury your head under a pillow for hours, or do you feel tightness in your lower back or shoulders? The body is trying to tell you something, but do you know what to do with the information that it’s sharing with you? Should you avoid the feelings? Will giving in to them cause you to feel worse?

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In today’s episode, Tony works off of the https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323454 article “What to know about anxiety,” to give an exhaustive overview of anxiety including what the body is trying to tell you. What types of therapy and medication tend to work the best with anxiety, how does mindfulness, and meditation help reduce anxiety, and why is it so difficult to simply tell myself to be happy, to stop thinking anxious thoughts, and stop feeling anxious feelings (hint, trying to control the mind can often make symptoms even worse!).

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This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

In the 1984 movie Grimlins, we learned three rules for taking care of Grimlins. Do not let them get wet. Do not expose them to direct sunlight and don't feed them after midnight. Today, we're talking about another misunderstood threat to our happiness. A Grimlin of sorts, anxiety. And if only the rules were as clear cut as they were with the Grimlins of the 80s, but they aren't. What are the rules around anxiety?

0:21.8

Do you ignore anxious thoughts and feelings?

0:23.7

Should I feed those thoughts?

0:25.2

Is anything inherently wrong with me for having anxious thoughts?

0:28.9

That, how to treat them, and so much more.

0:31.5

Coming up on this episode of the Virtual Couch.

0:35.0

Hey, everybody, this is a very quick advertisement, and I know I'm a podcast listener. You can hit the little

0:40.7

fast forward button probably on your podcast player, 15 seconds, 30 seconds. But bear with me. I'll try to make

0:46.3

this quick. As a therapist myself, I obviously recommend that everybody give therapy a try,

0:51.3

because when people ask me, do I need therapy? I don't even have to talk to you.

0:54.8

The answer is, yes, I need therapy. Everyone could use a sounding board. Everybody could use

1:00.3

an objective third party. Everybody could kind of dig deep a little bit and find out what are things

1:05.9

that they've been holding back on. What are the things that they feel like they should be able to

1:09.9

get over or shouldn't be

1:11.6

worrying about.

1:12.7

Shouldn't, shouldn't.

1:13.3

Nobody wants to be should on.

1:14.7

But we're all hanging on to things that would be helpful to process.

1:18.4

And there's even things that we thought we'd achieved by now or things that we really want to

1:22.4

achieve so that we won't have these regrets in life.

1:25.6

And so if there are people listening right now that might be noticing that their anxiety or their depression might even getting a tiny bit worse, especially with what's going on in the world right now, let's get to it. Let's not leave that untreated. You owe it to yourself, to those around you, your spouse, your kids. You, I mean, you're the, you owe it to you at the very least to give therapy a try. So if you're

1:45.5

nervous about finding the right fit, if you're worried about bumping into somebody in the

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