These are my personal opinions.

Always take a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Welcome to the show. I'm glad you are here. I've got a little challenge that came in for somebody that I'm going to go over.

This person said that they moved out of their very toxic home and now they are alone for the first time in their life and they want to enjoy it.

But they're anxious and scared all the time and lonely.

They said they've never felt so uncomfortable.

I mean they had to also quit their full-time job and I think they went back into their education.

So this person left their friends, they loved their friends and they relied on their friends daily and their mental health is not the best and so the only benefit this person sees so far is that they no longer have the strain of their parents abuse and they no longer have the ability

to draw from their usual comforts and coping mechanisms.

And so I really want to get into the idea of leaving a toxic environment and adapting to the new environment that you have.

We have to remember that being in a toxic situation, especially

with family, is going to create, or very likely to create, trauma bonding, if you're not familiar with that, my take on trauma bonding is when you

are getting a benefit from being in an abusive relationship.

And that benefit might be they're hurtful,

they're toxic in many ways,

but they do a lot of wonderful things for you too.

So it's like a roller coaster of emotions that you go through.

And then what ends up happening is that you seek more comfort from the people that are hurting you.

You seek your worth, your loveability, you seek your

happiness from the very people that take it away and put you in a situation that you're constantly seeking more.

It's like being an emotional prisoner in a way, and that might be unfair, but I'm going to use it.

It's like somebody has you imprisoned and they are keeping you from consuming liquids.

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