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I'm Colter.

And I'm Lauren, and we will be joined with our friend Kayla in just a moment.

We are all licensed professional therapists and real-life friends who care deeply about helping people feel more connected in their relationships.

On this show, we help you make sense of these stuck spots, the patterns, the fights, the

disconnections that keep showing up even when you're really putting in the work.

You can expect honest conversations, practical insight, and stories that help you understand

why things feel hard and what actually helps.

Whether you're here to improve your relationship, understand yourself better, or just feel

a little less alone.

You're in the right place. Let's get into today's episode.

Back when I was in high school, I was a theater kid, and there was this play that was popular at the time.

I mean, I don't know if it was actually popular, but amongst the theater nerds that I hung out with,

it was popular. It was called, I love you, you're perfect. Now change. I love you. You're perfect.

Now change. And just from the title, you already can tell what the play

is about. I love it and I think it's hilarious because isn't this exactly how every relationship

starts off? Just, they're amazing. They check all of the boxes, conversation never stopped.

And then, you know, maybe by third or fourth date, it starts getting to like, ooh, you did that. I don't know if I like that, but that's okay. Let's not mess up a good thing. And then, you know, we keep going down the road. Okay, I'm really not liking that thing. And then eventually gets to the point where it's like, I need you to change this. Like, this has to be different. You have to change. Maybe you have a partner that wants to change whatever thing it is, but they

don't quite know how to or they're not putting into action. Their words are there. Like, yes,

you're right. I recognize this as an issue. I want to do something different about it. And then we get

to next week. And it's same story all over again. So that's what

we're going to dive into today is the motivation to change in how we navigate that as a couple.

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