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slash parenting podcast. A few years ago someone here asked me to write an article for the focus on a

family magazine about a time I let my kid fail and I wrote it and she said

actually you rescued your child according to what you're telling me in here.

And I said, oh, you're right.

I guess I didn't really let that child fail.

I came in and swooped in and rescued them.

You know, one of the hardest things that we as parents have to do

is learn to let our kids fail.

I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta,

who heads up the focus on the family parenting department here.

It is important, Danny, to give our kids space, to succeed, of course, and also to fail.

And really it's important for us to give them a sense of safety that they can fail and still be okay.

That's a hard thing to do though.

Oh, that is really hard.

As parents, when we see our kids that we've poured so much into fail and if we're really honest sometimes

we take it upon ourselves if they fail then we're failing somehow and and that there's no

truth to that really and so really failure is about growing and growth it's wonderful

to feel success after failure it makes it even sweeter and

so processing that with your kids and encouraging them after they've failed is is a very rich journey with your kids as they continue to grow.

And it gives them a growth mindset instead of that fixed mindset that if I don't have the talent,

if I don't have the skill right away, I'm a failure, and it becomes more a part of their identity if they failed.

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