Mormonism Failed Me as A Woman - Dana Raine | Ep. 1999

Mormon Stories Podcast

Dr. John Dehlin

Religion & Spirituality

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🗓️ 6 March 2025

⏱️ 215 minutes

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Summary

Dana shares her personal journey of growing up in the Mormon church, navigating mental health challenges, and eventually deconstructing her faith. From her Mormon upbringing and mission experience to questioning societal and religious expectations, Dana's story explores themes of self-discovery, the impact of religion on her life, and the search for meaning beyond traditional beliefs. After leaving the church, Dana delves into topics like mental health, fertility, relationships, and motherhood, offering a candid perspective on her path toward healing and personal growth. This channel is a space for open discussion on faith, identity, and life after Mormonism.

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00:05:00 Dana’s Mormon Story begins

00:17:00 What examples did she see of women in the church?

00:21:34 It was out of the ordinary to see women with careers

00:38:23 She was reported to the Bishop and her parents that she had experimented with cutting

01:06:30 Dana’s mission experience service in Atlanta, Georgia

01:12:22 She didn't love the temple experience - was “underwhelming”

01:24:24 David Archuleta was at the MTC during the same time

01:32:51 Dana knew very soon that she wanted to leave the mission early and she had to fight to go home

01:38:27 Dana Decided to go to BYU

01:56:25 Felt pressure to be married by the time she finished BYU

02:02:17 Dana to tell her parents that they could not be married in the temple and her mother told her “He’s taken everything from you”

02:18:07 Mormon therapist asked her to consider if she would be open to dating a non-Mormon

02:29:50 Dana lists the ways the church failed her - the church makes promises it can’t keep

02:41:20 Began to research severe PMS and PMDD, and learned that she suffered from it

02:47:02 Dana decided to have a baby by herself - very radical in Mormonism

03:08:00 Dana feels that she was a better foster parent as an ex-Mormon

03:14:40 Deconstructing the idea of “motherhood” in Mormonism

03:27:18 Dana focusing on her PhD

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0:00.0	Hello everyone and welcome to another edition of Mormon Stories podcast. I'm your host, John DeLinn. It's February 10th, 2025. I'm here with my partner Margie. Hey, Margie. Hi. And today we're going to be covering, we're going to be bringing back to Mormon stories, someone who's already appeared once on the show. It's Dana Rain. Hey, Dana. Hey.
0:21.6	Thanks for joining us.
0:22.6	Thank you for having me.
0:24.3	Some of you may recognize Dana because she was in the young single adult panel that we had last
0:30.4	month that we released last month.
0:32.9	Is that, was it last month, Dana?
0:34.5	I think a couple months ago.
0:35.5	A couple months ago.
0:36.5	Yeah. It's all a blur for me. A couple months ago, we had a young
0:40.1	single adult panel, and we really felt like Dana's story, we felt like y'all would really
0:45.4	enjoy going a little bit deeper. The theme today is sort of, the way I would describe it is
0:52.1	what happens when you're a young Mormon woman in a convert family
0:58.5	who submits to the church in all the ways to become the best young woman you can possibly be.
1:06.1	Mormon young woman you can possibly be, which includes serving a mission and you know seeking
1:12.5	out temple marriage and going to the BYU's and all that stuff and then what happens
1:16.8	when it's just very clear that the the Mormon path for you as a young woman just
1:23.2	isn't going to work out whether it's because of an unhealthy marriage or infertility or faith
1:30.9	issues or what. So another way to kind of phrase this is, why are so many young Mormon women
1:36.7	leaving the church and finding that the Mormon church in the 2020s just isn't a good fit
1:43.0	for their priorities, for their sensibilities, and frankly,
1:46.0	for their mental health. And I'll just give as a disclaimer, we, you know, we want to kind of give
1:52.6	a warning about sensitivities to suicidal ideation, to abuse, to relationship trauma.
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