Money, Powerful Questions, & 8 Dates To Have With Your Partner - Drs. John and Julie Gottman - Smart Couple Podcast #229
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Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 998 Ratings
🗓️ 8 March 2019
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
Few experts have studied more marriages - and determined what makes those relationships succeed or fall apart - than Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
The Seattle-based couple and founders of the Gottman Institute are leaders in their field, using decades of case studies to help both new couples and long-term partners communicate, ask the right questions, and find the solutions to keep their relationships intact and running smoothly.
On this episode of the Smart Couple Podcast, the Gottmans discuss their newest book on relationships, some of the biggest flash points for arguments and contempt among couples, and why mutual respect is critical for success in any partnership.
SHOWNOTES
- Background on the Gottmans [6:00]
- Surprising Marriage Revelations [9:50]
- Why Money Creates Arguments [11:20]
- How to Ask Meaningful Questions [15:25]
- Insights Learned from Couples on Dates [19:30]
- Why Fun is Crucial in a Marriage [22:35]
- The Perils of Screen Use [23:50]
- The Impact of Attachment [25:40]
- Interpreting Body Language and Contempt [30:45]
- How Positive Couples Last [36:25]
- How the Gottmans Solved Their Marriage [39:20]
- The Importance of Date Nights [43:50]
- The Role of Respect in a Relationship [46:30]
- Advice for Young Couples [50:10]
- How to Find The Gottmans’ New Book [52:00]
- Final Thoughts and Action Steps [53:15]
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| 0:00.0 | You have to have a different attitude about negative emotions. |
| 0:03.2 | You have to have a different attitude about your partner's sadness, your partner's |
| 0:07.2 | disappointment, the partner's anger with you, and realize that those moments are magic moments for connecting. |
| 0:15.0 | When you're upset, honey, the world stops and I listen. So, What is up and welcome back to another episode of the relationship school's smart couple |
| 0:45.1 | podcast? I'm your host, Jason Gatis, and I'm so glad to be back in the saddle after a little hiatus. |
| 0:53.0 | Thanks for your patience. |
| 0:55.0 | If you're new, welcome. |
| 0:57.0 | We talk all about love, connection, and conflict |
| 1:01.0 | and how to get your shit together in an intimate relationship. |
| 1:06.6 | Because if you are like I used to be, |
| 1:10.8 | you understand that you can act like a complete jerk or moron when it comes to human connection. |
| 1:18.0 | You know, you have lots of friends and you're like a great friend but you get in a relationship and you're really |
| 1:23.9 | challenging to be around especially under stress. Yeah I'm like that too. We all are a little |
| 1:32.1 | weird and activating if we live together and hang out for years, |
| 1:40.0 | right? Yeah, it's just the way it is. So we try to help you navigate those turbulent |
| 1:44.8 | waters and we also try to help you have a great time because I think marriage kicks |
| 1:49.8 | ass. I love monogamy. I love partnership. I love family |
| 1:54.0 | family it's my world |
| 1:55.0 | so big big fan here |
| 1:58.0 | Okay in this episode I've got an unbelievable couple |
| 2:02.0 | named John and Julie Gottman. Really, really grateful to get this |
| 2:07.2 | chance to interview them just because they're so such pioneers in doing research-based relationship work that they just study couples for a living |
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