There's so much sort of parenting sort of advice around how we help our children with their feelings, talking about their feelings.

I can see you're feeling anxious.

I can see you're labelling the experience for them.

What I'm hearing from you is that perhaps it's more about helping them understand that underneath that weather,

underneath that drama, underneath, there is peace. How do you do this with a child and how can

we model it and learn it so that they see us doing this? You've answered your own questions,

or you model it. You don't try to explain, you don't try to have the conversation

that you and I are having with a four-year-old child or a six-roy. You have to model it. That's the

most important thing, model it, because children are very sensitive. They pick up, as you well know,

they don't just read what's going on on the surface. They pick up the deep experience of their parents.

So the most important thing is to feel this for oneself and model it.

If you feel it and live it for yourself, then you are without even trying modeling it

to your children.

Your children will pick up.

They'll just feel when there's a drama going on in the kitchen. They probably

won't formulate it to themselves until they're adults for many years, but they'll be aware,

oh, mum's cooking tea for three children, the phone's going, the plumber's mending, there's

just drama in the kitchen, but they will feel that there's this imperturbable quality in you.

It doesn't mean say that you're not engaged.

You're multitasking.

You're always multitasking as a mother or a father.

But underneath that, they will feel, because you're in touch with your being,

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