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MOMENT | Maternity Service: The Reframe That Changes Everything

Motherkind

Zoe Blaskey

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.8 • 863 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2026

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

In this Motherkind Moment, Zoe Blaskey is joined by broadcaster and journalist Emma Barnett for a deeply honest conversation about early motherhood, identity, and what really happens to us when we become mothers. Emma shares the reframe that changed everything for her: moving from the idea of maternity leave to maternity service. A season where you are always on call, constantly adapting, sacrificing parts of yourself, and often expected to carry on without much language for how profound that experience really is. Together, Zoe and Emma talk about those early months – the walking, the exhaustion, the heatwaves, the survival mode – and the surprising way creativity can sometimes re-emerge in the middle of it all. Not because motherhood is easy, or beautiful, or calm – but because so much else has been stripped back. They explore the tension so many mothers feel: how maternity can be deeply depleting and, at the same time, quietly expansive. How there can be grief for who you were, uncertainty about who you’re becoming, and moments of clarity that feel almost shocking when you’re in the trenches. This is also a conversation about what we’re missing culturally – the lack of space, language and stories for matrescence. Not parenting advice. Not baby manuals. But an honest reflection on the inner shift of becoming a mother. Because motherhood doesn’t just add something to your life. It changes you. In this Moment, they explore: Reframing maternity leave as maternity service Creativity, identity and thinking again in early motherhood The loss, rebirth and in-between space of matrescence If you’ve ever felt changed by motherhood in ways you couldn’t quite explain, this Moment is for you. If you liked this moment, listen to the full episode: Maternity Service, Not Leave: A New Perspective with Emma Barnett Remember to subscribe to Motherkind — it helps more mothers find the show and keeps our community growing. Ready to feel like yourself again? Download your FREE Matrescence Cheat Sheet Connect with Zoe: Follow Zoe on Instagram  Get Zoe’s Sunday Times bestselling book, 'Motherkind: A New Way to Thrive in a World of Endless Expectations’ This Motherkind episode is sponsored by: Headline sponsor Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women’s supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit, visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi everyone. It is your host Zoe here. Welcome, welcome. It's Monday, which means it is

0:12.8

Motherkind Moment Day, your little shot of inspiration on a Monday. Today is with Emma Barnett.

0:19.8

She's an incredible journalist. You probably know her from

0:22.0

Woman's Hour and the author of an amazing book called Maternity Service. And this little snippet this

0:27.4

morning is to remind you that what you do for your children, and let's be honest, society, is a

0:34.2

service, especially in that first year when it is definitely maternity service, not maternity leave.

0:42.3

Here it is.

0:49.8

So I suspect that we have something in common, which is a love of language and words.

0:56.4

And I write in the start of my book that words make worlds.

1:00.5

And it's so fascinating to me how one switch from maternity leave to maternity service

1:08.3

completely reframes the whole thing. How did you get that genius

1:13.8

insight? Well, I started writing quite frantically at the start of a heat wave. So I was on my own

1:21.5

with both children because my husband was doing a business course. And I was with the baby,

1:27.1

who is our daughter, who's six months at this

1:28.8

point, and our son, who was five, and I had to do, you know, pick up every day. And I was doing

1:33.6

that most days anyway, but this was a really intense week. So I went at the start of the week and

1:38.4

bought a few bottles of Roseau, bought some chub-rub shorts from Marks and Sparks to deal with

1:43.4

the heat and lots of walking.

1:45.6

And then I decided to try and write down my experience of maternity leave.

1:49.9

And two days into writing, and I was just writing in snatched moments, notes and observations I'd had,

1:56.7

I had this thought that actually it was more like service.

2:01.6

And there were elements of it that were very service-like,

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