And you mentioned nervous system and regulation a few times.

And I really wanted to dive in to this with you because, and I'd love to get your view on this,

but I see an explosion in the parenting industry right now.

So many scripts, tips, hints.

And in a way, it's fantastic.

In a way, what I notice in my life is that

if I don't have a regulated system, if I'm not regulated, I can be saying all the right scripts

in the world. I can be reading all the books. None of it seems to work. What seems to work is

when I regulate ground myself, it almost doesn't matter as much. The words that I say to my

children, it just works easier. Does that make sense that I would be experiencing that?

100%. I mean, we are intuitive, energetic creatures whose nervous system is always scanning on

alert for other energies, for happenings, always geared looking for the possible

threaded hand. So to simplify that, we could be saying one thing and energetically, we're

communicating a completely different thing. And because one of the main tasks, which is why

parenthood is an entire, is enormous enormous of a job as the language really that

comes to mind is to create that safe container, to create the safe environment, which begins

in the nervous system in your own body. So again, this is why do as I say, not as I do, isn't the reality that we're going to

experience. We are always attuning to the energies of other people around us. And even if we

have someone saying the right things and their nervous system is in their own stress response,

their muscles are tense, their heart is beating so fast, and they're telling you to calm down,

you're going to feel the energy that their body is communicating. And this evolved actually out of

our own survival, our own ability to join together in a band or a group of other humans and to

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