Mom Shaming - We're all Just Crabs in a Bucket | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 4

After Hours With Amanda

Kids & Family, Parenting

5.0 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2020

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about mom shaming, judgment, and why insecurity can make us act like crabs in a bucket.

I’m sharing the Target parking lot diaper story, the birth plan comment I never forgot, and the way motherhood can bring out comparison around epidurals, breastfeeding, formula, screen time, sugar, tantrums, and all the tiny choices people suddenly have opinions about.

This is me learning out loud about empathy, insecurity, and choosing not to tear down another mom who is also doing her best.

00:00 Happy Wednesday and Leopard Energy

01:23 The Topic: Mom Shaming

03:33 Not a Rulebook, Just My Journey

04:14 What Mom Shaming Really Is

05:02 The Target Parking Lot Diaper Story

06:32 Mom Shaming and Insecurity

07:02 Crabs in a Bucket

08:56 Women Empowerment and Tearing Down

10:20 Mom Humor and Fear Around Motherhood

11:21 The Hot Button Parenting Topics

13:16 The Birth Plan Comment I Never Forgot

18:02 Breastfeeding, Formula, and Guilt

20:29 Why Moms Need to Do Better

23:07 Shaming People Who Do Not Want Kids

25:34 How Judgment Divides Us

29:22 Seeing the Person, Not Just the Mom

32:23 Raising Daughters With Empathy

34:34 Lead With Empathy, Not Insecurity

Transcript

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0:00.0	Well, welcome back and happy Wednesday. I will tell you what, I am feeling good today. And I said this on
0:05.8	Instagram, but all the endorphins showed up for work today. And I just want to thank my mental
0:11.2	state for getting on board with what I needed today. So if that's not you, I'm going to encourage you
0:17.4	to let you know that hopefully this gives you 30 minutes to get your endorphins back on track. And if that is you, hop on the happy train. Speaking of trains, can we take a
0:27.3	little trip on the TMI train for a second? Is there anything better than leopard? I mean,
0:32.5	be honest, right? I mean, I know they say it's just for fall and winter, but I bought a new leopard sports bra
0:38.2	recently, and I am telling you, it is giving me life. Because when I'm just wearing my black yoga
0:43.5	pants in my black tank, and I'm like, hi, my name's Amanda, and I love neutrals, and I look like
0:48.3	I'm in a constant state of morning because I wear black all the time. But boom, got a little pop of leopard. See, I'm fun still.
0:57.1	I just love that about it. I think that any pop of leopard, whether it's a baseball cap, whether
1:02.8	it's shoes, whether it's a sports bra, whether it's other personable, unmentionables, whatever
1:08.4	you want to say. I think it's just fun. It's just fun. I am super excited
1:12.4	to be here. I just, I'm loving sharing this with you guys. I love getting to go on your jogs,
1:19.3	getting to hang out with you doing your homework on your car rides. And I'm just grateful you're here.
1:25.1	And today I want to talk about something. Honestly, I have so many things on my mind that I want to talk about on this platform. But, I'm not going you're here. And today I want to talk about something. Honestly, I have so many
1:27.7	things on my mind that I want to talk about on this platform. But the one that I want to tackle right
1:32.9	now is mom shaming. And the crowd goes silent. Mom shaming. I will never forget. You know what's
1:40.2	funny? I had content that I uploaded on TikTok. I want to say a few months back
1:46.1	and I mentioned, I said the word mom shaming. And I got a lot of comments of, wait, what is that?
1:53.4	Wait, what is mom shaming? And there was this like, what is that? And I think it's because a
1:58.4	lot of the demographic on TikTok tends to be a little bit younger.
2:02.3	And some of them aren't moms, which is totally normal. But it was interesting to me because I remember that.
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