Mom Rage, Invisible Mental Load in motherhood & more w/Erica Djossa

Mama Knows

Cloud10

Parenting, Kids & Family

5.0 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 9 April 2024

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Mom rage is a topic near and dear to my heart and something I am still working on improving. If you are like me and feel like you are quick to anger and have a short fuse but don't know why or how to mitigate it, this episode is for you.Questions we addressed in today's interview:1. I was personally diagnosed with postpartum mood disorder and rage back in 2021 - do you have any stats or data on approximately how common this is? 2. What brings so many of us moms to rage, when we weren't like this before? 3. Is it my fault I have such a quick temper? 4. How can we get a handle on your rage? i.e. what are some long term things I can do and what are some in the heat of the moment things I can do to cope? Erica Djossa is the CEO and founder of Momwell, and a registered psychotherapist specializing in maternal mental health with over a decade of experience. As a mother of three rambunctious young boys, Erica understands first-hand the challenges of motherhood. Perfectionism, pressure, and loss of identity fueled her battle with postpartum depression, and she realized how difficult it is to seek care. She founded Momwell to set a standard of care for providers and ensure mom-centred specialized mental health support at any stage of motherhood. Erica has been featured in media publications including Time Magazine, Washington Post, USA Today, The Toronto Star, Breakfast Television, and Scary Mommy. Contact detailWebsiteInstagram About the Book: Moms today are drowning under the weight of labor and expectations, feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and overburdened. They desperately want to feel like they are succeeding, but the impossible standards placed on them leave them feeling burned out and frustrated. Releasing the Mother Load: How To Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More is an empowering guidebook that teaches moms how to unlearn intensive mothering expectations and free themselves from the burdens of mental labor. “In our search for perfection, we hold ourselves up to impossible standards,” says Djossa. “And when we inevitably fall short of those, we feel like failures. The key is in letting go of what we think we should be and embracing our value as a mom.” Based on the teachings through her maternal mental health platform, Momwell, Erica Djossa unpacks the dimensions of cognitive labor—the invisible care work within tasks like soothing babies, navigating tantrums, keeping track of where everything is in the house, and planning for appointments. In Releasing the Mother Load, Djossa invites readers to break free from societal conditioning that demands mothers do it all, and step into a new way of thinking that relieves the weight of unrealistic motherhood expectations and allows them to say no, take on less, and enjoy life more. Unlike other resources on the topic of invisible labor, Releasing the Mother Load takes a hard look at th ______________________________Did you love this episode? BUY ME A COFFEE for support!Find me on Instagram@balkanina@mamaknowspodcastFind me on TikTokBalkaninaSubscribe to my NewsletterPrivate Facebook Motherhood-Podcast CommunityMama Knows FBDisclaimer: This podcast does not provide any medical advice, it is for informational purposes only! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:22.8	Jill.
0:23.8	To Argos.
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0:27.0	Hey mate, just passed a room there.
0:31.8	What was the giant pile of letters?
0:33.6	Letters? Ah, my bill room?
0:36.2	Bill room? Yeah, can't open them, can't throw them out, so they go on the pile.
0:40.6	You've got a giant pile of unopened bills bills big enough for a room and you don't want to open them because...
0:46.5	Don't want to know. Right, well maybe if you open them you wouldn't have to sleep in the bath.
0:50.8	Yeah. All cook in the shower.
0:53.0	Studies show, our relationship with money is formed from age seven.
0:56.2	So for help tackling your finances, search Barclays Make Money Work for You. When I had my second kid I had a lot of rage towards my toddler not not the baby, just a toddler. And then that rage kind of trickled into my relationship and the people that I care around me and I didn't realize that there was a thing called mom rage and that's part of a post-part of mood disorder and then there's just regular rage to like rage that you have because you carry a huge invisible mental load.
1:37.9	And then there's just rage because of what you know and how you were raised.
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