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The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

Modern Masculinity, Feminism, & Raising Boys in 2026

The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

Matt & Abby

Society & Culture

4.816.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 March 2026

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Matt and Abby open up about what it feels like to raise boys in a moment where conversations around masculinity feel louder and more polarized than ever. They unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy masculinity, how criticism aimed at grown men can be internalized by young boys, and the role social media plays in amplifying extremes. They also share their biggest hopes as parents — raising sons with strength, humility, emotional awareness, and a sense of purpose in a rapidly changing world. This episode is sponsored by Zoc Doc, Better Help, Kindred Bravely, Olipop, and Flamingo. Zoc Doc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://Zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Better Help:Sign up and get 10% off at https://BetterHelp/unplannedpodcast Kindred Bravely: Get 20% off your first order at https://KindredBravely.com/UNPLANNED with promo code UNPLANNED. Exclusions apply. OLIPOP: Get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any 2 cans in store—just visit https://drinkolipop.com/unplanned Flamingo: Our listeners get the Flamingo Starter Set for just $7 at https://www.shopflamingo.com/unplanned Chapters: 00:00 - Modern Masculinity 01:53 - Living in a man hating culture viral clip 08:05 - How did we get here 10:08 - Redefining masculinity 17:36 - Not all men 18:42 - Raising good men 25:50 - Teaching our boys emotional regulation 29:46 - Boys vs. Girls 38:41 - Consequences 41:06 - Service in healthy masculinity 45:10 - Why young men are afraid of emotions 50:44 - Pay disparity in the home 01:00:17 - Normalizing therapy 01:03:47 - Social Media and the gender wars Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Thank you to Time for Learning for sponsoring this portion of today's episode. Schooling is one of the most important decisions you make for your children, and I'm really excited about the option time for learning. We are coming to that point where our kids are getting ready to enter pre-K, and there's all these decisions to make. And I love that we're in this day and age where there are so many options, but I'm also very overwhelmed by it. But I'm really excited about Time for Learning because they have everything you need to teach pre-K through 12th grade at home, but with all the core and elective classes offered in a traditional brick-and-mortar school. I love that option because you get the structure that you would like with a traditional school format, but with the personalized, intimate setting of homeschooling. And that's because Time for

0:37.6

Learning believes in harnessing the flexibility of homeschool to help families explore passions,

0:42.2

travel, and hobbies without the constraints of traditional school hours. It can also be used

0:46.1

for more than homeschooling. It is also used for school or summer learning to address learning

0:50.4

or maintain skills. It was created by experts for parents with over 1 million students served. Time for learning is also super user friendly. It can go on your computer or on your phone and they have really easy to read calendars for the day or the month. It also has a progress bar so you can see where your kids are at, what they've completed, and what they still have yet to do. I think it's a really, really great options for families that are looking for that flexibility and that nuance in their child's education. So if you're also curious if Time for Learning is right for your family, visit Timeforlearning.com. That's Time Number 4 Learning.com to explore their curriculum and find the perfect plan for your student. You can get started with a monthly subscription to see just how much your kids enjoy learning on their own terms. If a guy hurts you, let's not extend that to the entire gender. My two and my three-year-old are building their sense of self right now. Here like, I hate men, men are the worse, and them be like, there's something wrong with me. I never want that to happen. There's all these men right now that feel like they're failing because they're not providing

1:46.0

financially for their family as much as their wife. And that is BS.

1:50.0

There's so much more to providing for your family than financial.

1:53.0

We want men. We want masculine men.

1:56.0

But I think that in 2026, we need to redefine healthy masculinity, especially as our roles have changed in society. What's up dudes? And welcome back to unplanned. Woo. Is that fun? Should we rebrand the unplanned with just like the one word unplanned? I've actually wanted to do that for a while and I've gotten nervous. I don't know why. But I think it'd be kind of fun just if this just said unplanned.

2:18.6

Okay. I think we do I think we should do it. Do it. Do you guys approve it. Let us know in the comments.

2:24.6

Speaking of the comments, everyone that's been leaving reviews, we really appreciate you.

2:28.6

That helps us so much. That's like a free way you can support the show by just telling people why you like it on Spotify or Apple.

2:34.2

And then especially another freeway is just subscribing if you're listening to. like a free way you can support the show by just telling people why you like it on Spotify or Apple.

2:34.2

And then especially another freeway is just subscribing.

2:37.9

If you're listening on YouTube, the subscribe button really helps us out.

2:41.5

We're actually trying to hit a million subscribers this year.

2:44.3

And if we do, I think we need to do something special for our team because we're growing.

2:48.9

We're trying to make better videos. What are we at right now? We're at, uh, 800 something thousand. Oh, yay. 830,000, I think. You can do it. So, I don't know. I've seen another podcast where they like throw a party for their team or they take their team on a trip. Maybe we'll take our team on a trip if we hit, if we hit that number. We should make a goal too for always here. Because I don't know.

3:08.9

I think I just want to celebrate that. And, um,

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I, team on a trip if we hit if we hit that number we should make a goal too for always here because

3:11.4

i i don't know i think i just want to celebrate that and um i want to be around for a while because

3:07.8

it's it's fun connecting with you guys it's fun interviewing the guests that we have on these shows

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