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The Man Enough Podcast

Modern Dating: Choosing Connection Over Attention With Matthew Hussey

The Man Enough Podcast

Wayfarer Studios LLC

Education, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.8 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 15 April 2024

⏱️ 95 minutes

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Summary

Renowned dating coach and New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey brings his expert insights into modern dating, emphasizing the importance of building connections that go beyond superficial interactions. The conversation delves into the common traps of today's dating culture, which often lead people into patterns of avoidance and isolation. We talk about how this is particularly affecting young men and Matthew provides specific tips to help shift our perspectives. Co-host Jamey Heath highlights the importance of prioritizing friendship as a foundation for romantic relationships while co-host Liz Plank vulnerably shares her fear and personal frustration with dating. This set the stage for a healthy debate about whether we should lower our standards or not while looking for our perfect match and the important idea of being 'happy enough' before everything else. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of modern relationships and looking to cultivate genuine connections. Whether you’re actively dating or evaluating your current relationship, you’ll find valuable insights and advice to help you move forward. Matthew's new book, Love Life, is out on April 23, 2024 - you can pre-order at LoveLifeBook.com TIMECODES: (00:00) Episode Begins (04:45) When is the last time you didn’t feel enough? (10:36) Dating advices men VS women (17:36) Leaving a relationship that doesn't serve you (20:22) Don't confuse anxiety for passion (29:57) The loneliness epidemic (43:15) Sacrifice attention for connection (51:37) Unbearable desire to find love at all cost (58:40) Should we lower our standards? (1:07:53) The concept of "happy enough" (1:15:37) Rapid fire questions (i.e. helpful tips) (1:27:59) Being man enough QUOTES: "If you don't like the culture, you have to be brave enough to create your own." - Matthew Hussey "We often glorify people who have found a relationship, but there are so many people I've met who are more successful the day they leave their relationship." - Matthew Hussey "Anxiety can often feel like passion. You get excited about someone, but you don't necessarily know exactly why." - Matthew Hussey "You'll find the right one faster if you can lose the wrong one sooner." - Matthew Hussey ABOUT MATTHEW HUSSEY: Matthew Hussey is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. He writes a weekly newsletter and is the host of the podcast Love Life With Matthew Hus\xadsey. Hussey provides monthly coaching to the members of his private community at LoveLifeClub.com. Over the past fifteen years, his proven approach has inspired millions through authentic, insightful, and practical advice that not only enables them to find love but also feel confident and in control of their own happiness. He lives in Los Angeles. MATTHEW HUSSEY SOCIAL Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thematthewhussey Website: www.matthewhussey.com SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter https://manenough.com/books https://boyswillbehuman.com FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ Tags: #Masculinity #Men #ManEnough #datingtips #relationship #selfworth #loveadvice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So many of us are dating from a place of ego all the time trying to feel like we're enough

0:36.8

instead of going what are the qualities that will make me happy?

0:40.0

What's your assessment of what's going on with young men and how it's affecting their

0:43.7

relationships with women and dating? There's a sense of isolation for so many of those men. I'm being overlooked

0:49.8

and how dare they? the hypocrisy of that is lost on a lot of these guys who haven't

0:59.2

internalized the fact that the very thing they're accusing women of is the thing they are doing to women.

1:04.5

We put these expectations on ourselves. I need to rethink what real love and

1:08.6

connection is because we don't have a problem as much making friends as we do

1:12.0

making a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

1:13.4

Sometimes we have to do a brave thing. I'm going to sacrifice attention for connection.

1:26.5

Being man and, what does that mean? It's really manly to mess up, admit you're wrong, and then grow.

1:30.5

I couldn't accept that I was evil.

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