Minisode Monday #60 | Hacking Motivation with Value Languages

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🗓️ 3 July 2017

⏱️ 7 minutes

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Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Vanessa Van Edwards (check out our full episode with her here) rejoins us to talk about value languages -- the motivations we have for entering into relationships with each other. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Ever wondered how to hack motivation? It begins by understanding what people really want out of a relationship. If you think about it, all relationships are transactions in which we give and take resources. Value languages are what we hope to get out of a relationship; they can be any of the following: Information Goods Status Service Love Money Vanessa gives us ways to practice how to recognize what value languages are being used in our own relationships so we can best address the motivations behind them. This week, take a look at brags and complaints when you hear them and try to match them up with these different value languages. If you liked this one, make sure to check out Vanessa's most recent appearance on The Art of Charm: Captivate (Episode 610) To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: [email protected] (he actually reads everything)! Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/minisode-monday-60-hacking-motivation-with-value-languages/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! The first 250 people who go to PodcastOne.study and complete the short survey will get a $25 gift card to Restaurant.com — after completing the survey, you will have the option of entering a sweepstakes for a $250 gift card! Get started here! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	Hey, Jordan Harbinger here from the Art of Charm. Welcome to Miniso D'Monde.
0:04.0	You're a weekly shot of personal development espresso.
0:06.8	Happy to be here with you kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement
0:11.2	right away that'll make you more magnetic and effective. Today we're back with my friend,
0:15.3	Vanessa Ven Edwards, who is just recently on the show discussing first impressions,
0:19.2	the science of popularity, social attraction, romantic attraction, and what we can tell
0:23.6	from people's photographs. And today we're talking about value languages. So here we go, Vanessa.
0:29.3	So happy to be here. Yeah, value exchange is one of these topics that always makes people a little
0:34.4	bit nervous, but I'm going to try to take the sting out of it. So basically it's this idea. It's
0:39.2	a researcher, Yuri L. Foa, he discovered that our relations are transactions. Our relationships are
0:45.6	all trying to give and take resources. And this is a very, personally, people say a hard way of looking
0:51.5	at relationships, but I think it's actually just a more honest way of looking at relationships.
0:55.6	And his argument is that we are constantly on the lookout and trying to get resources that we
1:02.3	lack. Usually these are things that we missed out on in our childhood. And there are six different
1:08.4	value languages he discovered. And this is a little bit different than the five love languages
1:12.1	you've heard of them. The love languages are how you show appreciation. The value languages are how
1:17.2	you get resources, what you hope to get out of your relationships. So here are the six. And you can
1:21.8	kind of see which one sounds most like you. One, information. So seeking out advice ideas, opinions,
1:29.0	teaching, Jordan, I think that you have a informational transaction with your audience, your relationship
1:35.0	is informational. You get really interesting people who give information, advice, and opinions. So
1:39.2	that's a resource that you offer. So people are listening to you for that. The second one is goods.
1:43.9	So tangible products, objects, materials. This would be if you're in a relationship with a broker
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