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Well, I notice a trend that a lot of times when we think about health, we tend to get very kind of secluded into this area of let's focus on what I eat, let's focus on

my fitness, let's focus on my workouts. So it's very body-centric. And yet our bodies are also

something that we have a deeper relationship to that goes beyond food and nutrition. We have

relationships with others and those relationships impact our health. Okay, so this is what

we're doing. We're noticing we are looking for opportunities to be accountable. What else are we doing,

Luis? Yeah, one of the other key things, healthy relationships have a five to one ratio. And what a

to one ratio means is for every one negative behavior or

statement that is said or done. So just so everybody knows is I make tons of mistakes in my

relationship. And every single couple that I've met that I consider to be the most

phenomenal couple on the planet, they make mistakes, They get mad at each other. They say things that

aren't so nice or don't sound so great. So with that being said, the five to one ratio is for every

one negative thing that's said or done. Healthy couples, successful couples do or say five

positive things. So there's a huge imbalance of positivity for the negative thing that happens. And so

this for a lot of people may feel unnatural because that means that you're going to be giving a lot

more compliments, a lot more affection than you think necessary. But a healthy relationship is really

built on positivity and affection and affirmation and acknowledgement.

I love this. When you're dating somebody, it's like a 10 to one ratio, right? I mean,

if anything, it might be a 100 to one ratio. It's all goodness and love and compliments. And then it's,

it's so ironic to me that the longer you're in relationship with somebody, the more narrow and

narrow and narrow that ratio becomes and reverses itself, right? So you might tell them one nice

thing for every 30 critical things or constructive things that you're trying to offer them.

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