What's up everybody? It's Dr. L here with Spartan Mind, your chief Mindock

at Spartan. So today's episode is primarily geared towards parents, but hey, listen, if you want to stop right now, please don't. I promise this could help you too, because you can apply it to relationships, to colleagues, to family members. so keep listening.

All right parents we've all been there right our kiddo is having a difficult time

they're struggling with something they want something at the toy store we leave

without it they want something at the grocery store we leave without it They want to be in a particular activity. We don't

let them, whatever it is. When you say no and they bump up against that and they move

themselves into a tantrum position,

ugh, that is where your boundaries are key.

Now I know you're seeing them cry,

you're seeing them upset, you're seeing them stressed,

you're seeing them maybe even afraid and what you want to do is you want to dive into it and rescue it

You want to give them that toy just so they'll be quiet you want to grab that cookie at the grocery store just so that you're not

seen as the one who can't control their children, right? Or you want to put them in that activity

even though you enrolled them in another activity just to make them happy. Don't. Let them experience that pain, that

frustration, that distress. You know what it builds? Distress tolerance. And that is essential for grit, resiliency, persistence, commitment,

dedication, loyalty, honor, integrity, I could go on and on. I've been there. I'm a parent. I have two young kiddos and yes

it's hard when they want something or they want to do something for me to say no

sometimes but when I do I promise myself that I'm making the right choice

because they're going to gain skills from that no. And that's what I want you to

think about too, is that every know that you give them every time you set that boundary and they

have to tolerate distress because of it you are actually building character

in that individual in that little person who's going to grow up

...