What's up Spartans? It's Dr. L. here with Spartan Mind, your chief mind

doc here at Spartan. And today we're talking about giving advice.

So here's the thing.

All of us are usually in a position at one point at time

where somebody asks us, well, what would you do?

Certainly as a psychologist in my years of experience,

I have had many clients say,

well, how would you handle this or what do you do?

And here's the thing,

really good advice actually comes from taking that sentence what

would you do and shifting it right because when somebody is asking for

advice they're really asking well what do you think I should do? Now, it might come out as, well, what would you do?

But the best advice is actually when you think of the individual who's asking for advice.

You think about, well, what is their past history? What is their way of thinking that you're aware of? How do they normally relate to people? And some of this data you might not have, but some of it if you're their friend, you certainly could have. And thinking about, well, what's going to be what's going to be the best approach for

them not actually what's going to be what I would do because let me give you an

example of this so let's say I have a client that says, well how would you handle this?

And this client has a lot of trauma in their history. They've had really unfortunate relationships and experiences in relationships that have put them in a position where they're very distrusting of other people.

And they move through the world kind of feeling like a turtle, pretty sheltered, have a difficult time coming out of their shell shell which is very different than how I am.

Well the advice that I might give that individual is very different than actually what I would do, right?

Because of my history, because of who I am as a person person the experiences that I've had as a person.

So when you're thinking about the advice that you're going to give to other people, one of the things

that I first want you to do is drop your own ego.

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